No Longer Afraid of Myself

Before finding the Balanced View Training, for as long as I could remember, I had been afraid of everything. Every situation, whether extreme or mundane, used to bring up so much fear and anxiety for me. I became very good at ignoring it whenever possible, very skilled at pretending that I was confident, but inside I never felt secure or safe. It was such a painful way to interact with myself, with people and with life in general, and self-doubt was permanent.

 

Now I have been in the training for five years and I have received undeniable and incredible results. One of them is that I am no longer afraid of myself.

 

One day I was reflecting on this and I realised that the power of allowing this crippling anxiety and fear with millions of short moments had fully transmuted that fear into indestructible confidence that, for sure, I will know how to respond to most situations and that I no longer need to be afraid of myself.

 

It was not like an affirmation, it was an unshakeable knowing coming from seeing again and again in my experience how my response to all situations had shifted from fear to settled confidence. I started to see the spontaneous opening of skilful means I had no idea I had. I feel that relying on my trainer is what helped me most in this, being lovingly and clearly empowered to experiment with short moments of open intelligence at every opportunity with an attitude of openness, respect and nurturing self-care.

 

It happened so naturally that I did not notice the process, all I know is that I kept showing up openly and humbly took the short moments, with so much fear at first, and then bravely allowing the confidence in short moments to expand and showing me that it is safe to feel complete paralysing fear and anxiety. It did not destroy me like I thought it would. In that I found such stability and power and no longer need to avoid this side of myself, to the point that I don’t really notice when it comes up anymore. It is no longer a distraction or a threat, it is no longer the primary perception in all my interactions. It’s such a huge relief and a very relaxing way to be, and I am deeply grateful for that every day. 🙂 Gaelle

Parenting With Growing Ease

We became parents some 15 months ago, before our son’s birth a lot of data streams came up for me, mostly relating to my capacity of being a good parent. today, looking back, I can say without doubt that the practice of resting naturally and the Four Mainstays lifestyle offered by Balanced View, are, for me, the best parenting course ever. I find that there is more and more natural ease with the handling of daily and nightly states, which can be quite demanding; being almost constantly deprived of sleep, dealing with scarcity of free time, times of illness and so forth – having the possibility to more and more not lose patience in the face of these – that is the best present I can think of – It brings so much joy and happiness being more and more at ease. I wish to thank Candice O’Denver the founder of Balanced View, Balanced View Trainers who devote their life to support beings in gaining clarity to their nature and to the Balanced View worldwide community who shine forth in so many ways.

Gil

Keep Showing up!

Caring for oneself as Open Intelligence and being socially aware and active is an absolute and instinctive requirement for living plus no longer needing to be shown that we’re worthy of love and being 100% responsible. I have to keep reminding myself that love isn’t out there but here and now, that we are love.

When I first read how to deal with jealousy it seemed to present a really strong issue and the instruction to truly be able to demonstrate O.I. power in the grip of jealousy can seem unrealistic, and over altruistic to simply think in such circumstances,’well it’s universal data and we’re all in the same boat’. It takes time to get to that stage and one could be tempted to think that such a simple hearted type of love is hypocritical.

However time does help if you keep living it as instructed. When my husband gushed over certain T.V stars I used to get innerly furious but now it simply doesn’t affect me so it must be due to repeated thinking on Balanced View lines and learning to trust Open Intelligence more and more until it doesn’t seem difficult any more.

I guess that’s the crux of the whole thing, just keep on showing up and eventually you start to really live it and can eventually know exactly how to handle all those really trying times. I’d always thought short moments had to be taken deliberately like medicine but recently I’ve noticed they can occur in a split second. A crisis arises and you have a hair’s breadth moment to decide what to do, you instinctively take an in-breath and short moment’s recognition of Open Intelligence.

Recently I turned up at my usual venue to teach my usual yoga class to find there was a Bridge convention going on in the same place. With my class members milling around me I had to decide on the spot and taking a short moment happened so fast I suddenly ‘knew’ of an alternative place to go, someone came up with the suggestion of where to find the key to it and without our usual equipment we set off for the new destination, it was cold, we put on extra jumpers, there were no blocks. Again a short moment and , we were using books from the shelves in the room instead, we had no straps, we used our scarves instead. It all turned out fun instead of a disaster. Point proven. Just keep showing up, relaxing and taking the short moments.

Margaret

The most generous gift that I could have asked for

I have just went through a change in my life and going
through this change was a clear demonstration of the great changes I see happening through the precious support of Balanced View’s empowerment network, the Four Mainstays.

Over a period of 3 months I was looking for a job, and in
the past this time could have been very stressful as looking for a job comes with a lot of data- hope and fear, doubt, worry and more. With the great support of my trainer, I was able to take it one moment at a time, so I was able to outshine so much data and see how I can be totally relaxed and assured even when such data appear.

Then taking the decision of choosing a job was also seamless. In the past I would have talked to people about it and that would have caused a lot of turmoil in my thoughts. The support of my trainer helped me to be totally relaxed and to simply rely on the knowing I had and I was totally released from trying to put in to words or explain my decisions.

At every step of the way I felt so supported and that I could totally be at ease with the deep knowing that all is well and that I will know what to do at each step of the way. I feel such deep gratitude to Candice for providing this profound support structure, that is most caring and available. Sometimes I feel it is the most generous gift that I could have asked for.

Thank you also dearest community friends for sharing your experience, as I gain so much trust from your assurance and from the benefits I see on other friends from the community.
It is beautiful to share this most precious gift together.

Amit

Joy of being

Through the Balanced View training, there is an ever-increasing joy of being. The greatest surprise is that all the joy, love and benefit is present in all the thoughts, feelings and sensations that I was avoiding.

Before meeting this training I only occasionally felt a sense of joy in certain circumstances and situations where I felt I could be myself. This was a very limiting experience because I was constantly trying to recreate certain circumstances and situations in order to experience this joy.

However, through this practice, I have found a tremendous joy in letting myself experience all the thoughts, emotions and sensations that I thought are “wrong” or “negative”. It might seem crazy but I have found indestructible joy by allowing all negativity to rage freely without holding anything back. It is such a miracle and I would have never discovered it without the Balanced View Training.

There is such liberation in allowing myself to think and feel everything. By doing that all the conditioning of society is brought up and the cosmic joy at the basis of everything shines forth. There is nothing sweeter than taking in all suffering and letting it shine for the benefit of all beings.

Reality is pure goodness, so there is nothing to reject. It is all so amazing and beyond words or imagination.

I feel everyone who is magnetized through this training will experience this for themselves eventually, even if it might seem like a distant dream at first. The support system is so perfect and complete. To me, it is the greatest gift to the world that this is available today to so many people. Thank you all for making this possible.

Thank you Candice for this indescribable gift. I am grateful beyond words for your precious existence.

Love,
Julien

Keep Calm and Carry On

Something about the phrase, “Keep calm and carry on” always soothed me when I read it—whether in its original version or in the many varieties that adopted it on t-shirts or slogans for their websites. But it’s only now I’m seeing what about it always resonated with me.

I was aching for any confirmation that it was possible for me to be empowered and stable through life’s ups and downs. That even if something seemingly disastrous or disturbing happened, I could be strong and actually carry on without stopping at any and every hurdle that arose. Balanced View is the only thing that has ever given me clear instructions, lived examples and support to not just know that it was possible, but to actually embody it and live it myself.

It didn’t happen overnight. It began with simply recognizing I wanted it, that it was even possible and demonstrated by so many people in the Balanced View Community all encouraging, “You can do it, too!” I was skeptical, but bit by bit—short moment by short moment—in baby steps sometimes and in leaps others, I’d really test out that stability and see that all was well no matter the fuss I made or didn’t make about certain data. Not just imagining the words or contemplating an idea, but being willing to no longer run away—avoid, replace, mindlessly indulge—revealing a direct sense that no matter what I was experiencing, something remained unchanged by all of the appearances and sensations. Getting to know that something as my true identity is the greatest gift I could have had the chance to discover in this life.

Now I know, “I can do it.” where there was once only self-doubt and fear. Where I used to do anything to avoid speaking to people that made me uncomfortable, I see feeling uncomfortable or awkward has never killed me and it doesn’t matter if I feel it or not. Where there is the urge to make a huge deal out of something and focus on how bad it is, slowly but surely there is the willingness to keep calm and carry on with what I instinctively know I need to be doing. And that instinctive knowing is always clearer and more naturally unfolds on its own the more I rely on the Four Mainstays in daily life.

Listening to or watching talks on www.balancedview.org, www.timelessawareness.org, or their respective YouTube channels while I prepare meals or clean the house is an easy and enjoyable way for me to rely on a Mainstay. Being present on the www.bright.how Facebook page and seeing so many new people discovering the same stability and ease that I am is so supportive and inspiring. And speaking to friends in the community, I get to hear about what they are facing openly in their own lives and it gives me such motivation and assurance that I can face anything in mine.

I am grateful for a training that only ever points me back to the profound nature of being a human being, and the great opportunity and adventure that that is. Tsunamis of fear, anger, hopelessness, disgust, guilt and self-doubt scare me less and less, and feel more like rich opportunities than something to try and avoid experiencing. What remains every time I drop the descriptions and stories is an ease of being that is capable, alert, bright, and unafraid. Therein is the real calm, and ability to carry on. Thank you, Candice, Mia and incredible friends that show me what is possible and that I am not ever separate from that calm capability.

Megan

The Kindness of Short Moments

Last week I was talking with a friend who has been everywhere and done everything.

I came out of it feeling drained and really boring, like there was
absolutely nothing about me that was interesting, like I had nothing
to contribute to anyone.

My first wish was for these feelings to change so that I would be more
comfortable and at peace with myself again, feel some kind of
self-worth.

Then I remembered the kindness of short moments!
Short moments never get old and I love to experiment with them.

I saw again that it was ok to feel exactly the way I was feeling, and I
thought of how many people feel like this every single day: like they
have to be better, to compete, to be really interesting and clever,
to have amazing lives, to do so much, to be charismatic, to always
have an interesting opinion about everything, to save the world, to
be admired, approved and self-confident, to be validated by the
admiration they receive.

I am not so interested in that anymore because I prefer the gift of being
always comfortably myself and not seeking satisfaction from people or
experiences, and that is one of the things that Balanced View supports me with.

It’s so powerful and soothing to feel completely boring, useless and
stupid and to not try to change that. I find deep, indestructible
self-respect within that.

The ultimate self-love I find in short moments is that I don’t need to
prove to anyone (not even to myself) that I am a great person.

To be just as I am, openly listening and responding, is very relaxing and humble, no fixed identity, box or label to say I am like this or like
that, just able to meet people as they are with less and less
self-referencing. Thank you so much! 🙂

Pervasive friendship

I would like to share about how my friendships have been empowered since I started to rely on the support of Balanced View‘s support network, the Four Mainstays of open intelligence.
There used to be quite a lot of confusion for me, surrounding friendship. I was always looking for closeness and reliability in my friends, but I often felt something was lacking, something was uncomfortable or that I wasn’t completely able to be myself. Today, so much has changed here. Just the other day, when a friend was feeling sad, I said to her in complete assurance that I will always, always be her friend and that she can count on me for life. To know that I will always be able to be there for her is amazing for me, and I see that it is possible because I am no longer ruled by my negative data streams. In the past, if I felt unworthy or angry, I would sometimes end friendships but today I have a stability and reliability that is so beyond my positive or negative data streams. This I feel allows for true friendship, friendship that is not dependent on having similar opinions or experiences.

When I feel that something is lacking or uncomfortable in friendships today, I just relax and recognise that that unease is equally pervaded by ever-comfortable, relaxed open intelligence and that nothing, not me or anything else, has to change. I can be naturally loving and present just as I am, comfortable or uncomfortable, and before I know it the unease has changed into something else. I no longer feel that I have to be confirmed or recognised by my friends as a particular personal identity and because of that, I am so much more available to be spontaneous and available to enjoy and support my friends.

Today I know that my true well-being is not to be found in any outer circumstance, not even in loving relationships, and it is a huge relief to not have to put this expectation on any of my friends. I enjoy them and the relationships so much more now that I’m not looking for them to provide me with the sense of being loved, or seen for “who I am”, whatever that means 🙂 I often feel very relaxed and easy-going when I am with my friends—instead of playing out jealousy, unworthiness or disappointment like I used to. My friends, new and old, tell me that they feel very relaxed and open when they’re with me and I know this is because of the openness and relaxation I feel within myself, which is awakened by open intelligence.

Perfect Confirmation

I am so immensely grateful for Balanced View‘s empowerment network, the Four Mainstays, for the perfect trust and support it is in my everyday life. It is so obvious how my commitment to the Four Mainstays making me so clear and limitless in my work as an artist!!! How I can find inspiration and being spontaneously present, focused and open. It is also so great to see how others is more and more open to my work. This is so amazing and so precious!!!

With the wonderful tool of short moment of Open Intelligence whenever I remember to do so, i find a wonder of release!! To have a Trainer that is the most wonderful trust and guiding light!! Being in training and writing and reading the completely wonderful texts of Dear Candice, being together with the precious people in the Community. I find that this is such a perfect confirmation of our true and wonderful nature!!!

All my love Per

Outshining Overwhelming Affliction To Naturally Shine

Before I met the Balanced View Training in October 2016 I had been labelled as Paranoid Schizophrenic for many years.

I indulged in the familiar data streams of low energy and very poor
memory. I felt I had lost interest in expressing myself creatively. I
seldom smiled and laughter was rare. Mental sluggishness was one of
the most distressing symptoms, leaving me with little to say. I
wanted to be a writer but I felt I was of no use to anyone anywhere.

Then I took the Twelve Empowerments Training. Suddenly I had a purpose in life. I still had what I call problems and fears but now I knew a powerful practice which revealed the true nature of these fears.
Things began to change. I started to face those fears head on. It was
the best thing I could have done.

By the time I had completed the Twelve Empowerments I was ready to
contact one of the Balanced View trainers. I would not have had the
confidence to approach a ‘stranger’ in this way before the Training.
Nor would I have had the trust required to enter into a friendship of
such honesty and openness.

Straight away my trainer provided the perfect support I needed. This change still amazes me and has had huge benefits. I am now bright and alert, mentally and physically. My memory is absolutely fine. If I don’t remember something I don’t see it as a personal failing. I now
express myself clearly with energy and vigour and with an
enthusiastic calm. I am so naturally creative.

In the past, I would dread responsibility and quick decision-making. Yet now I found myself gradually taking charge of my elderly mother’s
health care. I was right there for all her daily needs: good food,
hygiene and loving support. I became a powerhouse of beneficial
activity.

I still keep in touch with medical professionals for any necessary
support but I am no longer approaching them as a victim of these or
any other data streams.

My relationships were also transformed. I had long avoided and
neglected my relationships with my two brothers and my sister, my
mother and father.
With the support of the Training, my relationships have gradually and
quickly begun to harmonise. I see my family all the time. I am happy
to ask about their concerns and how their daily lives are going. I
show much more appreciation for their love and support. Even when it
feels embarrassing, I send them messages listing all the ways I am
grateful for their love and support. I notice I expect nothing in return.
When they visit I straight away offer to make them lunch or tea.
I find true energy is for the benefit of all.

All of my relationships brought their own challenges, and they still do.
But thanks to the Training I learned a great discernment. This shows
me when to be boisterous, when it is the right moment to ask an
important question and when to be quiet and listen. Also,
importantly, when to find time for myself.

I am deeply and truly grateful for the practical support of Balanced
View. Life, ordinary life, is amazing.
With much love
Ged

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