Gift of Gifts!

I am grateful beyond words for the wonderful trust and support of the Four Mainstays empowerment network of Balanced View!!

I used to feel like a victim of disease and feeling like I am not worthy.​ This made me so depressed and I had a deep and old sense of not be able to make it in life.

With the wonderful support of the Four Mainstay I found a new clarity and I learned to completely rest in these feelings,​ ​and leave all feelings of victimhood and not worthy, completely as it is. This give me the wonderful freedom in the midst of these disturbing thoughts and emotions and making me love myself and others so much more
and to be much more close to myself and others and make me live life fully.

The trust and support of the Four Mainstays is the most precious gift of gifts!!

With gratitude Per

Effortless communication and relationships at work

In my work life, I had struggled with easeful communication and relationships due to emphasising negative thoughts and emotions about myself, especially that I wasn’t good enough or as intelligent as others. I tried to replace these thoughts and emotions with positive ones by trying to make myself look better than others and by having ‘the right’ idea or opinion, however this made relationships difficult as it was a game of putting others down and insisting on my ideas being the best.

Until I met the Balanced View Training I had no idea this was playing out. I wasn’t in control of my actions and words. I was at the whim of believing there was something wrong when I experienced certain feelings and thoughts and instinctively my reactions to others when these thoughts and emotions arose came from a place of self-defense.

Six months after being introduced to open intelligence at a Balanced View Open Meeting, I embarked on the Twelve Empowerments. This is the core training of Balanced View and was completely life changing for me.

The simple, step-by-step process, with incredible texts that were so exciting to read, again and again, confirming the innately beneficial nature of human beings and skilfully supporting me to open up all my belief systems, taking a clear and honest look at my relationships and what was going on, seeing for the first time that all my difficulties were caused by one fundamental misunderstanding and providing me with the solution! The one simple change of recognising my thoughts and emotions as open intelligence.

This training shone a light on my entire life in a way that empowered me to make a commitment to the practice of short moments of open intelligence and to rely on the support of the training, a trainer and community.

When challenges arose in my relationships at work and I saw myself shooting off emails I immediately regretted or getting into arguments because I was insisting I was right, I would write to my trainer and receive specific instructions for how to let these thoughts and emotions be as they are and see from the mountain top.

The practise of relaxing for short moments when I felt the urge to react and defend got easier and easier and I saw my communication and relationships with work colleagues really flourish. I have become able to really listen to what others are saying and to contribute what I see respectfully, no longer influenced by my thoughts and emotions and instead empowered by open intelligence and the unity it brings to all circumstances, seeing my work as a place where we are truly working together to be of greatest benefit in all we do and supporting my work colleagues, rather than it being a “Me” project.

I feel very grateful to now also work in teams where everyone is relying on open intelligence. It is just so amazing to experience such a harmonious flow of relating, sharing gratitude for each other and all we contribute, seeing the unique strengths each one has and not feeling threatened by that. Instead just enjoying working together and accomplishing so much.

I am so grateful for the Balanced View Training and the immensely beneficial results that have come about in my life, for all the wonderful trainers, for the global community of amazing participants, many of whom have become dear friends, and especially for the founder Candice O’Denver who has poured her whole life into providing this powerful teaching because she cares so deeply about human beings, knowing that we can live and work together in complete harmony.

With love, Jess

Step into my powers of great benefit and get things done

I would like to share how it is for me to step into my powers of great benefit and to get things done.

I have always loved to play music and I am paying guitar. Many people have asked me over the years if I have a CD and when I’ve responded “no, not yet” they asked me when I will record something. I said that I will record something soon. This went on for quite some time. Like a good ten years or so, or maybe even longer. I thought “I’d do it later” and this later was always later. The day never came. Until…

One day this November I reflected on this. This later is never coming for me recording this album that people kindly have requested. I will do it now. On Sunday it’s going to be done. I have nothing yet but I will compose and record it and on Sunday it’s going to be finished. So, I did.

What was very empowering to see in this process was that I was not a victim to the data of avoiding it any longer. I saw that I had been hindered by bad excuses like “I have to be in a creative mode; I have to practice enough so it’s perfect for those who’re listening to it so they see how good I am; can’t release anything that kind of half way done.” and so forth.

However, once I started doing it (the key for me!) it was very simple and also I did this in a relaxed way. No strive and effort but simply doing it. Much time was not required for this beautiful project. It took a lot more time and energy to think and ponder on avoiding it all these years then simply to it.

I named the album ‘A Life of Beauty’ and that is what I think this training provides me with. A Life of Beauty. To discover areas in life where I can feel I am empowered to step up and thrive. Areas in life that is close to my heart and can be challenging. I find it such a gift to be supported in life in this way; be supported and met with love, gratitude and respect and grow in a culture where this is very much alive.

The result came about for me by relying on The Four Mainstays, the support network of Balanced View; especially the contact with my trainer who always sees beneficial potency in me when I myself sometimes doubt. It feels great to have someone I can share things with and to whom I feel very close and safe with. I am very grateful for this.

Thank you very much to Balanced View and Candice O’Denver.

With all my love and gratitude,

Johan

At Peace

For me the most challenging topic in life has always been relationships.

In the Balanced View Training I was powerfully shown how the most important relationship to clarify is the relationship to myself.

Thanks to this simple understanding and constant support from the Four Mainstays over the years, I now see how many behaviours I really did not like in myself have relaxed and opened up.

For example, before meeting the education in the nature of mind offered by Balanced View, my default setting was to consistently find someone or something to blame if things did not go my way.

I would spend a lot of time and energy trying to work out why certain things turned out the way they did, and how I could bring about a change.

I am a bit ashamed to say this, but I would often sulk if I didn’t get what I wanted!

Most of the time I didn’t have a clue how to behave in a mature and dignified way.

I’m sure I was a nice person in many ways, but I certainly felt heavily challenged with myself and how I related in life.

My main strategy usually involved so much effort trying to change myself and other people so that I could feel better.

Now when I reflect on how I used to be, it sounds absurd, but at the time that was the only strategy I had.

I could certainly see that it didn’t work, but I didn’t have another choice.

That’s the incredible revolution Balanced View brought for me, in this one simple change of allowing myself to be as I am, whatever I am experiencing, and really making it clear that I have a choice in every single situation, no matter how wronged, justified or outraged in my perceptions I might feel.

By applying this little commitment again and again throughout the day, I started to see unbelievable changes in my speech and behaviour, and amazingly, in the way that I relate to my thoughts, emotions and experiences.

Where there used to be a lot of ranting in thoughts and speech, there started to be more openness, spaciousness and a sense of fun.

Now I often chuckle at the random and intense things that can come up for me, and it has become much easier to stop connecting the dots, “I feel this way because of this, and if I do that, this will happen, and I wish that person did this and not that because then I would feel better.”
That used to be what my conclusions about things looked like, but I am not really interested in that anymore.

By being able to allow my data to be as it is more and more, I started to see I was no longer trying to change myself and everyone around me.

Being with people started being a lot more relaxed, enjoyable and rich.

I had this impression before that people were really draining, but what was draining was my incapacity to be at ease with all the data that come up about people.

Now that I can let that be as it is and not take it to mean anything about anyone in particular, I have so much space to actually enjoy people, truly listen and be available.

I have so many ideas and opinions about myself, everyone, everything, and more and more I can just let those be as they are. They are less distracting.

These ideas and opinions change all the time, and I feel so grateful and truly satisfied to no longer take them seriously.

As a result I experience deep peace within myself.

I have experimented with allowing myself to be as I am in very intense data storms where it seemed impossible to just be myself with all the fear, self-hatred, self-criticism and grief.

I took a lot of support to harmonise the relationship to myself.

One moment at a time, I have learned that there is nothing in these emotions that can actually harm me, and I borrowed the assurance of my open intelligence elders many times.

I let data be as they are, one step at a time, and while feeling all these things, I am able to also care for myself in a loving and simple way and truly feel indestructible peace.

To me that is crucial because it allows me to offer that space of peace to anyone around me who is feeling particularly afflicted and not good enough.

It’s such a gift to offer an example of not relating from self-aggression.

I can be with people without being disturbed by their data, and just focus on being of service, because I can be with myself without being disturbed by my data, and serve myself so beautifully through the Four Mainstays support.

I want to finish by sharing a sentence from one of the texts, which I often hear in my mind and has always been of support to me: “Just relax and take care of yourself as you are.”

I love this care and simplicity, and it really has changed everything for me 🙂

Thank you so much dearest Candice and everyone in the community. Gaelle

A precious present to parenthood

Our son was born some two years ago, as cute as he was, and still is, sleeping well at nights and afternoon naps were not his strong side. Countless very early mornings with little sleep at night, waking up at the break of day, to support a tired and upset baby/toddler.

I can’t begin to thank this teaching, as it brought about the most lovely transition I could think as a parent – having the possibility to stay relaxed and even sometimes cheerful while being deprived of sleep for long stretches – one of my biggest challenges.

Situations where before it would have been so easy to snap, to lose patience – to not go there – to stay available – the teaching of natural rest is a parenthood treasure for me; I can’t think of any technique or mode of action that I’ve learnt before that would have supported me in this way.

I find it so very valuable to not get angry handling him – when a challenging time has passed, remaining cool – I look back at it with great gratitude – knowing how it could be different, how readily close were other modes of conduct before. This teaching brought then and brings now much laughter and cheer – the best parenthood course ever.

I wish to deeply thank Candice O’Denver, the founder of Balanced View, the trainers and the courageous world wide community.

Living More Spontaneously

I’ve realised that in the past before Balanced View I had a real blockage in not understanding that data is like ‘golden coins’ & that it is the shining part of O.I. if only I had courage to release it.

I have always been very much solution orientated. If I had I a problem I set out the hard way working out the answer step by step, unable just to relax and let the solution just arise by itself. I’ve always been a swot, swotted my way through school and university and still continued to swot up my lessons like mad before teaching, spending hours researching my subject so that I could offer only the very best, the very newest and up to date methods . I simply wanted to give of my very best and doubted I could do that if I didn’t plan everything out meticulously. I couldn’t just be slap happy and keep repeating the same old thing, people deserved to receive only the best possible every time.

I never guessed that I could change all that. Perhaps I didn’t try hard enough, or perhaps because it always seemed to work I didn’t want to change and although I was quite happy to let things be in other areas of my life I never realised how unnecessary it was to be so uptight about getting everything right.

Now I can still do my research and still know that when I relax with short moments I can be so much more spontaneous in my relationship with my students & can relax and let new and inspired ideas flow together with all the ‘learned stuff ‘. It is so eye opening to see what a revolution that has created for me in my work. We actually have fun in lessons and laugh and enjoy odd moments of shared enthusiasm.

Succeeding in business through humility

One of the most valuable lessons I learned through living the 4 mainstays lifestyle is that I don’t need to do everything by myself.

Instead I have become open to listen and learn from people who already have more experience, since I know now that this makes life so much easier.

Just like I rely on my trainer and Candice for gaining assurance in open intelligence, I now rely on mentors in business for advice and instructions.

Candice has often shared to learn from the best in any field and since applying this advice I have made amazing progress in my business.

I feel now that I can do anything because fundamentally we are all the same and if I learn from people who are already very successful, their ways of doing things becomes my own and I can achieve similar success than they do.

It is such a joy to work this way, allowing myself to be supported, learning from the best, being unafraid of failure, having great relationships with the people I work with and making a positive impact in people’s life.

I feel so deeply blessed by all the riches I receive through living the Balanced View 4 mainstays lifestyle.

In love,
Julien

Gratitude for Community

Recently my partner Max and I just returned to a beautiful little mountain town we lived in some years back, which happens to be where 4 of our Balanced View community friends live. They were a significant part of the pull to move back, and while living in Vancouver we had occasionally made the long drive to book meetings with our friends in the mountains, or held them in Vancouver.

Why this draw to be together and read a book together, or share about what we’ve noticed happening in our lives when we rely on open intelligence? Because it is absolutely enriching to my life; I’m inspired by these other precious human beings who are taking responsibility for their speech and actions in this world.

Before or after our meetings, we enjoy food and coffee together and easefully chat about one thing or another. Even if I am tired, or for whatever reason the resistance right before heading to the meeting comes up that I don’t want to go or I’m too busy; I am always glad I went and grateful to be in the presence of such stable, relaxed, and naturally funny people.

When human beings are relaxed and open, these beautiful qualities that are so enjoyable to be around and express flow so naturally. I don’t have to figure out what the best thing to say is or how I look to them, and they don’t either. If those thoughts or any other ones come up for any of us, all of us know it’s okay and doesn’t have to be where we stop and conclude anything about each other. Simply together enjoying the same presence and the unique offerings of each person as they are. This feels like the future of humanity.

I find myself wanting our society’s technology to advance faster so I can instantly communicate or be with community friends all over the world that I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know on Balanced View’s clarity calls, or at gatherings in San Rafael and Sweden. There are beautiful beings living in France, Ukraine, Sweden, Australia, India, the UK, and other places all around this planet who I consider very close friends that I am lucky to know, and to have an instant way to communicate and viscerally enjoy their company would be the best.

To me, what is evoked from the Balanced View training feels kind of like the ultimate communication technology: the language of inherent empathy and love for other beings and this planet that is effortlessly the case. From there, even if we don’t conventionally have certain data preferences in common, anyone can be a friend when both people are committed to relaxing with their own data. It’s quite something to experience.

I have the deepest gratitude to Candice for creating Balanced View; which was a sun that radiated strong yet kind beings all over the world who were demonstrating something no one else in the world was. A true relaxation to their core, willing to face every horrible and beautiful thing about this existence of ours openly, and recognize what is unchanged by any experience. Thank you forever, one and all.

 Megan

Beneficial potency set free!

Dear friend,
I’d like to share this time about my new job and all the empowerment I see in taking on new roles.
For most of my work-life, I’ve had the attitude of wanting to accomplish and strive as little as possible, to just do the bare minimum of what I was expected to and then focus my energy on my free time, relationships, traveling etc etc. Looking back, I can see I was always stingy and felt I needed to guard myself and my energy so that I wouldn’t be exploited by an employer or drain my energy from the things I really wanted to do. I’ve had a new job with new assignments since August and I can see so many shifts and openings, through using the Four Mainstays support-network of the Balanced View Training.

For one thing, through the support of my trainer, I have been able to identify an area where I actually want to contribute my strengths, gifts and talents. This used to be so vague to me and it seemed like there would be no way to make money off of something that I actually enjoy but that work is simply a means to an end.
Secondly, now that I’m more clear about how, why and where I’m contributing my beneficial potency, it’s like a great fire of energy has been released. Spontaneously I want to contribute more than perhaps is asked for, I volunteer to take part in new work teams, to learn about new areas and then lead workshops for my team and I rejoice in learning new skills within the niche I’m in. Where there was stinginess and suspicion, there is now a free-flow of giving, the joy of being part of a powerful team and contributing as fully as I can to the team and the benefit of all.

During these months, I have of course also seen many challenging data related to work come up. First of all, it’s a relief to be assured by community and trainers that it is completely normal to have many negative data streams when expanding one’s comfort zone, learning new skills and contributing in an area that we’re passionate about. Just this is of immense support: I don’t have to waste my energy wondering about the negative data and whether I would be better off somewhere else, but can integrate them and allow them to be until they self-resolve. Specifically, when overwhelm, self-doubt, stress and worry come up, I have decided to go even further in integrating the Four Mainstays into my work day. I start each day with writing out text and look at the sky, if possible I keep talks on in the background while working and during my lunch break I try to watch a video with a trainer. This supports me so much and each time the same old data come up I notice they seem less and less real and substantial. The most important change though has been to be very clear in my motivation: whenever I feel resistance or boredom I return to my overall commitment and intention which is to use each aspect of my everyday qualities and activities to benefit all. The benefits that this brings are hard to put into words: I find it takes the edge off all self-concerns, self-doubts and general negative under mutter and places everything in the context of complete exaltation and honor to contribute!

Thank you to Candice O’Denver and the Balanced View Training for showing me how to live a life of flourishing and satisfaction in all ordinary and everyday experiences!

Freedom in Disease

I came to the training of Balanced View five years ago and it has completely changed my life!!!
I come to see that I am perfect as I am!!
Since I was young (58 years old today) I have suffered very much of disease, rheumatism, and today I don’t. By the Four Mainstays I saw that I was living in a constant fear of pain in my body, and I always felt like a victim.
The Training, the Four Mainstays give me a perfect trust and courage to feel everything completely, to completely rest in the midst of the feeling of pain, fear and victimhood, giving me contact with the feelings and ideas about myself that really made me suffer most of my life. This led to a wonderful release of these feelings and self hate, a wonderful freedom!!
Today I can live fully, in love and gratitude, even in pain and disease, and I am so much better in my body as well as in my mind!!
With gratitude Per