Before finding the Balanced View Training, for as long as I could remember, I had been afraid of everything. Every situation, whether extreme or mundane, used to bring up so much fear and anxiety for me. I became very good at ignoring it whenever possible, very skilled at pretending that I was confident, but inside I never felt secure or safe. It was such a painful way to interact with myself, with people and with life in general, and self-doubt was permanent.
Now I have been in the training for five years and I have received undeniable and incredible results. One of them is that I am no longer afraid of myself.
One day I was reflecting on this and I realised that the power of allowing this crippling anxiety and fear with millions of short moments had fully transmuted that fear into indestructible confidence that, for sure, I will know how to respond to most situations and that I no longer need to be afraid of myself.
It was not like an affirmation, it was an unshakeable knowing coming from seeing again and again in my experience how my response to all situations had shifted from fear to settled confidence. I started to see the spontaneous opening of skilful means I had no idea I had. I feel that relying on my trainer is what helped me most in this, being lovingly and clearly empowered to experiment with short moments of open intelligence at every opportunity with an attitude of openness, respect and nurturing self-care.
It happened so naturally that I did not notice the process, all I know is that I kept showing up openly and humbly took the short moments, with so much fear at first, and then bravely allowing the confidence in short moments to expand and showing me that it is safe to feel complete paralysing fear and anxiety. It did not destroy me like I thought it would. In that I found such stability and power and no longer need to avoid this side of myself, to the point that I don’t really notice when it comes up anymore. It is no longer a distraction or a threat, it is no longer the primary perception in all my interactions. It’s such a huge relief and a very relaxing way to be, and I am deeply grateful for that every day. 🙂 Gaelle
We became parents some 15 months ago, before our son’s birth a lot of data streams came up for me, mostly relating to my capacity of being a good parent. today, looking back, I can say without doubt that the practice of resting naturally and the Four Mainstays lifestyle offered by Balanced View, are, for me, the best parenting course ever. I find that there is more and more natural ease with the handling of daily and nightly states, which can be quite demanding; being almost constantly deprived of sleep, dealing with scarcity of free time, times of illness and so forth – having the possibility to more and more not lose patience in the face of these – that is the best present I can think of – It brings so much joy and happiness being more and more at ease. I wish to thank Candice O’Denver the founder of Balanced View, Balanced View Trainers who devote their life to support beings in gaining clarity to their nature and to the Balanced View worldwide community who shine forth in so many ways.
Caring for oneself as Open Intelligence and being socially aware and active is an absolute and instinctive requirement for living plus no longer needing to be shown that we’re worthy of love and being 100% responsible. I have to keep reminding myself that love isn’t out there but here and now, that we are love.
When I first read how to deal with jealousy it seemed to present a really strong issue and the instruction to truly be able to demonstrate O.I. power in the grip of jealousy can seem unrealistic, and over altruistic to simply think in such circumstances,’well it’s universal data and we’re all in the same boat’. It takes time to get to that stage and one could be tempted to think that such a simple hearted type of love is hypocritical.
However time does help if you keep living it as instructed. When my husband gushed over certain T.V stars I used to get innerly furious but now it simply doesn’t affect me so it must be due to repeated thinking on Balanced View lines and learning to trust Open Intelligence more and more until it doesn’t seem difficult any more.
I guess that’s the crux of the whole thing, just keep on showing up and eventually you start to really live it and can eventually know exactly how to handle all those really trying times. I’d always thought short moments had to be taken deliberately like medicine but recently I’ve noticed they can occur in a split second. A crisis arises and you have a hair’s breadth moment to decide what to do, you instinctively take an in-breath and short moment’s recognition of Open Intelligence.
Recently I turned up at my usual venue to teach my usual yoga class to find there was a Bridge convention going on in the same place. With my class members milling around me I had to decide on the spot and taking a short moment happened so fast I suddenly ‘knew’ of an alternative place to go, someone came up with the suggestion of where to find the key to it and without our usual equipment we set off for the new destination, it was cold, we put on extra jumpers, there were no blocks. Again a short moment and , we were using books from the shelves in the room instead, we had no straps, we used our scarves instead. It all turned out fun instead of a disaster. Point proven. Just keep showing up, relaxing and taking the short moments.
I have just went through a change in my life and going
through this change was a clear demonstration of the great changes I see happening through the precious support of Balanced View’s empowerment network, the Four Mainstays.
Over a period of 3 months I was looking for a job, and in
the past this time could have been very stressful as looking for a job comes with a lot of data- hope and fear, doubt, worry and more. With the great support of my trainer, I was able to take it one moment at a time, so I was able to outshine so much data and see how I can be totally relaxed and assured even when such data appear.
Then taking the decision of choosing a job was also seamless. In the past I would have talked to people about it and that would have caused a lot of turmoil in my thoughts. The support of my trainer helped me to be totally relaxed and to simply rely on the knowing I had and I was totally released from trying to put in to words or explain my decisions.
At every step of the way I felt so supported and that I could totally be at ease with the deep knowing that all is well and that I will know what to do at each step of the way. I feel such deep gratitude to Candice for providing this profound support structure, that is most caring and available. Sometimes I feel it is the most generous gift that I could have asked for.
Thank you also dearest community friends for sharing your experience, as I gain so much trust from your assurance and from the benefits I see on other friends from the community.
It is beautiful to share this most precious gift together.