Relief and skillful means in social exclusion

Dear friend,
Thank you for taking an interest in the Balanced View Training and in how you can be of greatest benefit to yourself and all. Recently I saw very clear results of the training, in bringing immediate benefit both to myself and to those around me. I was at a wedding this weekend and there arouse intense data of exclusion, jealousy and envy, both toward the people who were getting married and toward my friends whom I went to the wedding with. My trained reaction was so strong to somehow justify myself: to confront the people who “made” me feel excluded or to indulge the data of sadness and victimhood internally. Instead, through training up the recognition of open intelligence for about four years with the support of the Four Mainstays, it was available to me to rely on open intelligence and on my trainer in heart and mind and feel completely safe and nurtured in the middle of very intimidating data (especially in the situation of the wedding where I felt obliged to feel positive). It was obvious that the comfort and relief, even pleasure, of open intelligence was more compelling than the descriptions and that I could just rest as I was, not needing to avoid or indulge anything that came up or try to make sense of it in any way. It meant immediate benefit for me AND that I was able to show up for empowered, reliable friendship rather than collapsing in my stories about what was going on. I am so grateful to this training and the ongoing support for shining my life up in all areas. My life is more exciting, dignified and expansive than I ever thought possible and I can’t recommend enough to try the training out.
Much love,

Feeling comfortable in feeling uncomfortable

I have always considered myself as  quite a  calm and peaceful being. I am usually happy and not much is going on in terms of wild thoughts, emotions and sensations (data) but I feel in general fairly stable. However, sometimes it hits me like a lightning strike and there is an onslaught on various kinds of data streams. Before I met the Balanced View Training I would have tried to apply some kind of method to either replace or avoid these data streams because they would feel so uncomfortable. This was always a struggle and quite random in how I could deal with it. Sometimes they would go away quicker, sometimes sooner. I would say I was a victim to it.

When I met the Balanced View Training I realized that I don’t have to trying to deal with my data but that they come and go and leave no trace like the flight path of a bird in the sky. So instead of spend my time trying to do something that is doomed to fail from the beginning I could relax for short moments repeated many times and recognize the basis, open intelligence, in which the data appear.

After practicing this for some time I feel that I can now handle data in a much simpler and relaxed way. I feel comfortable in being uncomfortable because I am not a victim to my data streams any longer but simply rely on open intelligence. This is a great advantage.


Before I came to the training of Balanced View, I had a belief I was a victim of life circumstances, and life was a constant struggle. Struggle of disease, unworthiness, constant worrying, fear, self hate.
By the wonderful support of The Four Mainstays empowerment network I could completely rest mind and body and leave all feelings, belief systems and thoughts as they where for short moments repeated many times.
This is so very empowering and allows me to be exactly as I am, to love myself exactly as I am, to be spontaneously present in all life’s circumstances!!
It has a tremendous impact in all areas in my life.
Today I don’t see myself as a victim and know I have the power to be everything I can be, and live in ever increasing love for myself and others!!!
With Gratitude Per

Grumpiness, gone, gone!

Hello! Thank you for reading this blog. The Balanced View Training has brought so much benefit to my life in all areas and beyond anything I could have possibly imagined, so it’s a pleasure to share my gratitude and my experience for anyone interested in finding out more.

One amazing benefit (and there are many!) is that every morning I had to get up early to go to work, I would feel grumpy and I just assumed that it was okay to be grumpy with others until it passed. I know this is something that many people experience, because I work in a hospital and we start work early.

After a year of participating in the Balanced View Teaching, I had the opportunity to go to one of the Balanced View Centers in India. I really enjoyed being at the Center and so I volunteered to help out. The role I was given was to help with breakfast, another early start!

Every morning, I would wake up feeling grumpy and go to the kitchen. It was the first time I really noticed how grumpy I was and the affect this had on others. I was participating in trainings every day and so it was beautiful to ask for support from the Trainers. I was amazed to discover that these shining beings also experienced grumpiness, but they were no longer affected by it. And also, that I didn’t have to try to stop being grumpy. I could just allow the thoughts and emotions to be as they were and use them as an opportunity to practice recognizing the grumpy data as open intelligence for short moments. Was there anything real about the grumpiness? Could I hold onto it or was it more like a rainbow in space? And it was so funny that once the grumpiness had passed, I would feel happy again. So, it showed me that thoughts and emotions simply appear and then vanish without a trace.

I started to enjoy early mornings because they became an opportunity for empowerment. Whenever I remembered, I relaxed for a short moment with the data of grumpiness and I found that whenever I did, the data just self-released and it was like there was nothing there. I also found that I could relate with others much more openly at that time in the morning and that I had much more energy and enthusiasm to contribute.

I have to say that several years later, I don’t actually notice grumpiness anymore. It has completely gone! Instead I experience the heart wish to step up to the responsibility of serving whatever circumstance I am in with the power I have to benefit all, and this is amazing. There is just the all-pervasive knowing that all is well, and that thoughts and emotions are fueling my capacity to be of benefit in the world. So, instead of grumpiness there is the always-on stability and enjoyment of life and the joy that comes from contributing to and connecting with others, whatever time of day it is.

I am deeply grateful for this empowerment in my life. I had for many years been so limited by what I thought and felt. To be empowered by everything that arises, to be fueled rather than limited, to experience the natural stability, clarity and joy of life, no matter what I am thinking or feeling and to contribute this to others, it’s just the best. I am especially grateful to precious Candice O’Denver who discovered this in her own experience and has dedicated her entire life to sharing it with others. With all of my heart, I wish this for you too.