Beneficial potency set free!

Dear friend,
I’d like to share this time about my new job and all the empowerment I see in taking on new roles.
For most of my work-life, I’ve had the attitude of wanting to accomplish and strive as little as possible, to just do the bare minimum of what I was expected to and then focus my energy on my free time, relationships, traveling etc etc. Looking back, I can see I was always stingy and felt I needed to guard myself and my energy so that I wouldn’t be exploited by an employer or drain my energy from the things I really wanted to do. I’ve had a new job with new assignments since August and I can see so many shifts and openings, through using the Four Mainstays support-network of the Balanced View Training.

For one thing, through the support of my trainer, I have been able to identify an area where I actually want to contribute my strengths, gifts and talents. This used to be so vague to me and it seemed like there would be no way to make money off of something that I actually enjoy but that work is simply a means to an end.
Secondly, now that I’m more clear about how, why and where I’m contributing my beneficial potency, it’s like a great fire of energy has been released. Spontaneously I want to contribute more than perhaps is asked for, I volunteer to take part in new work teams, to learn about new areas and then lead workshops for my team and I rejoice in learning new skills within the niche I’m in. Where there was stinginess and suspicion, there is now a free-flow of giving, the joy of being part of a powerful team and contributing as fully as I can to the team and the benefit of all.

During these months, I have of course also seen many challenging data related to work come up. First of all, it’s a relief to be assured by community and trainers that it is completely normal to have many negative data streams when expanding one’s comfort zone, learning new skills and contributing in an area that we’re passionate about. Just this is of immense support: I don’t have to waste my energy wondering about the negative data and whether I would be better off somewhere else, but can integrate them and allow them to be until they self-resolve. Specifically, when overwhelm, self-doubt, stress and worry come up, I have decided to go even further in integrating the Four Mainstays into my work day. I start each day with writing out text and look at the sky, if possible I keep talks on in the background while working and during my lunch break I try to watch a video with a trainer. This supports me so much and each time the same old data come up I notice they seem less and less real and substantial. The most important change though has been to be very clear in my motivation: whenever I feel resistance or boredom I return to my overall commitment and intention which is to use each aspect of my everyday qualities and activities to benefit all. The benefits that this brings are hard to put into words: I find it takes the edge off all self-concerns, self-doubts and general negative under mutter and places everything in the context of complete exaltation and honor to contribute!

Thank you to Candice O’Denver and the Balanced View Training for showing me how to live a life of flourishing and satisfaction in all ordinary and everyday experiences!

Freedom in Disease

I came to the training of Balanced View five years ago and it has completely changed my life!!!
I come to see that I am perfect as I am!!
Since I was young (58 years old today) I have suffered very much of disease, rheumatism, and today I don’t. By the Four Mainstays I saw that I was living in a constant fear of pain in my body, and I always felt like a victim.
The Training, the Four Mainstays give me a perfect trust and courage to feel everything completely, to completely rest in the midst of the feeling of pain, fear and victimhood, giving me contact with the feelings and ideas about myself that really made me suffer most of my life. This led to a wonderful release of these feelings and self hate, a wonderful freedom!!
Today I can live fully, in love and gratitude, even in pain and disease, and I am so much better in my body as well as in my mind!!
With gratitude Per

Empowered to be responsible at work

I have never enjoyed cleaning, and working in a hospital, not only do I have to keep things clean from everyday dirt, there are also highly contagious infectious diseases to worry about.

​I​n my role as a health care assistant, the task of cleaning the sluice (the place where all bodily fluids and excrement are disposed of) was ​not a popular one, in fact I would avoid this task unless specifically asked, ​hoping someone else would do it and ​fearing the infectious diseases and the powerful chemical we use to clean the entire room every day.

It’s been amazing to see that with simple participation in the Balanced View Teaching, taking short moments with my thoughts, emotions and experiences, and participating in the trainings and Clarity Calls, a natural wish to step up to my responsibilities has arisen in me and the capacity for deep care of others has taken priority over the habitual reliance on descriptions, like fear and disgust​.​ ​S​​ince receiving the introduction to open intelligence at a Balanced View Open Meeting, I’ve been shown ​these descriptions ​simply appear and disappear, like a line drawn in water.

I’ve also been deeply impressed by the shining example of the Trainers and participants from whom I’ve experienced the deepest care and compassion and who I see serve whatever circumstance they are in with such heartfelt commitment to being the greatest benefit they can be.

Another thing I love about relying on open intelligence is how gifts and talents I didn’t know I had emerge and become available to use whenever needed. For example, since participating in the Teaching, I’ve ​discovered ​thoroughness is one of my natural gifts​. ​I really like to ensure things are done well.

All of this empowerment has meant that I now volunteer to clean the sluice. I can even say I enjoy it! I don’t enjoy being in the infectious room with all the bodily ​fluids​, but I enjoy contributing my gift of thoroughness whilst cleaning​, k​nowing that I am keeping vulnerable patients safe from infections and I am giving them the gift of clean equipment to use, instead of something extra to worry about ​in addition to​ serious illness. I also enjoy contributing to my team in this way, volunteering to do a task that nobody else wants to do and feeling such compassion for others, knowing the thoughts and emotions that I was affected by before I began relying on open intelligence​,​​ and feeling very grateful that ​I’ve ​been so fortunate to ​meet the Balanced View Teaching ​because I hardly​ notice those thoughts and emotions anymore​. Instead I am​ filled with the joy and the power of the heart​ ​wish to benefit others.

This is a simple example of ​just one of ​the benefits of the Balanced View Teaching​,​ but for me it is very powerful to see a ​complete ​transformation occur with such care and compassion for all. It makes me really see how if open intelligence was relied upon to solve global problems that are currently avoided such as homelessness, prostitution, slavery, nuclear waste ​and plastic disposal, ​​how wonderful the results would be for humanity and our entire planet of beautiful beings.

I am so deeply grateful to Candice O’Denver who has made the Teaching of Balanced View so accessible for all and to everyone who chooses to step into their immensely beneficial power by participating. Thank you!

With love,
Jess

Health: From Hope and Fear To Care

Something that has always been interesting for me is health and how to stay healthy. Eat the right kind food, workout a lot, think about my body and how to sculpture it, etc.. I was quite obsessed about it I would say.

I loved to do those things but in one way it felt like I was trapped and didn’t have a real choice if I wanted to do it or not. What would happen if I suddenly stopped working out or eat “bad” food? Would all that I had built up be for nothing?

A lot of hope and fear around that area.. Hope that I would feel great if eating the perfect food and workout x amount of hours/day and fear that something terrible would happen if I stopped. Would I be accepted by people around me? Would I feel ok?

I clearly remember the day this shifted within me.

During the Twelve Empowerments, one of Balanced View‘s main courses, I realized that this was something going on within me and a struggle. I hadn’t seen it before.

Taking a closer look on how I actually related to myself in this regard and get to know that I could simply relax with this. I didn’t have to continue on with this game of struggle. Just leave it as it is..

Of course, it’s not so easy to just stop but to use the Four Mainstays, the support structure of Balanced View, I received great support to just relax. Listened to talks, write to my trainer about it and open up in that way, participate in trainings. So beneficial.

And one day, just like that, it struck me.

I am free.

I can stop working out. I can eat whatever food. And it would be fine. It was like being released from a mental prison that I didn’t even know I was in. Quite bold to state it like this but I think people can relate to what I am saying. This was my experience. Now I had an option and not stucked into an idea of how I had to live and go about this.

When I felt I had a choice, the workout started to become more fun and enjoyable, and I felt that my body could relax. My eating habits started to become more relaxed and I felt that I could enjoy all kinds of food and not beat myself up for eating whatever I eat.

It has opened up new ways for what I feel is good for my body when it comes to working out and eating and I feel much more healthy now than ever.

For me it is beautiful and supportive to simply enjoy the training and implement it in a practical way like this, something that provides benefit in everyday life.

I hope this share is supportive and will contribute to those who are reading to know that there is definitely a way to live a relaxed life.

With love and gratitude,

Johan

A Beautiful Choice

In the Balanced View Training I am shown that in each moment and situation in life, I have a powerful choice: the choice to completely relax and to respond from that deep peace and clarity.
 
At the start, I was not sure how completely relaxing would be of help in very practical challenges of everyday life. Conflicts in teams, misunderstandings in close relationships, challenges with acquaintances, confusion in decision-making, money matters, severe health problems, emotional instability… I thought, “How can complete relaxation help with all these impossible problems?” It did not make any sense because I had always only seen and been taught the choice of over-thinking, over-analysing, discussing everything at length and being really tense about everything.
 
To my amazement, my first moments of complete relaxation totally opened up some deep-seated trauma I had been very burdened by for most of my life. The short moments of complete relaxation also supported me directly in the midst of severe panic and anxiety attacks. As months went by and I committed again and again to this beautiful choice, I could see I was really relaxing, I was feeling free in severe chronic pain, the anxiety was melting away, I could sleep again, I felt happier and wishing well for everyone with the capacity to be more available.
 
I became less aggressive, more settled, more able to listen and to respond with real kindness and more wisdom. It was incredible to me, and it was like the training of over-stressing about everything was being deactivated and my whole behaviour was being upgraded. I have become so much kinder to myself, and I feel truly relaxed most of the time.
 
Things that used to throw me over completely no longer impact or distract me. At the same time, whenever a problem occurs, I find the right words to discuss it in a simple and direct way, and it is easy for me to focus on solutions instead of blame.
 
Everything still comes up in various situations, and I can still see that sometimes I respond with over-stressing and too much thinking. It’s not always easy for me to remember the choice to completely relax, and that’s why I am beyond grateful for the 24/7 support I get in Balanced View. There is nothing I cannot be supported with, and there is not 1 minute in 24 hours where that support is unavailable. That has been the case for 6 years! It’s really amazing for me to reflect on this.
 
Thank you with all my heart for this beautiful upgrade and community of truly supportive friends in complete relaxation that benefits all areas of life. Gaelle

Feeling a sense of great fortune

Looking at my life today, I can’t imagine living without the benefits of these trainings, receiving these precious trainings and being immersed in the Four Mainstays have brought about a quality to life that is truly priceless – more and more finding ease with disturbing thoughts and emotions – from my vantage there is no thing that beats that. I recall when being younger I had a gloomy outlook of life, not really looking forward to living the 20’s and 30’s and beyond – today things seem to get better and better.

Being at work at the clinic, working with a limited time span – anger and frustration used to come up quite often, even though later on the day I would have regretted getting angry or saying something non-beneficial, the next day it could happen again just the same – and even if the anger was not playing out, it was for sure very present within. It is heart exhilarating seeing the new possibilities of action opening up. More and more finding peace-of-mind with anger, sense of being hurt, self-blame and the blaming of others is a treasure I’ve longed for all of my life.

I wish to deeply thank Candice O’Denver the founder of Balanced View, the Balanced View trainers who are always there to support us and the brave global community of participants.

Staying centred in short moments

Being asked to contribute to the blog today has very significant resonance with me as this week I attended the funeral of my ex husband which before Balanced View I would have found very traumatic on many levels.

My present husband asked me to be clear about my motives for attending and I tried to be honest as I wanted to show solidarity with my children and also to pay my respects to their late father. What I had not considered were all the various ramifications involved.

It brought up all the old ideas for me regarding who and what God is. I was unable to see the Catholic Mass being performed as having the same relevance to the life of the father of my children I would formerly have believed. It would have been easy for me to have felt like an outsider as nearly everyone there except me went up to receive the Eucharist since because I was divorced I was now considered excommunicated from being Catholic. I kept remembering that nothing can remove the natural life power that is Open Intelligence and that there is no need to feel you are separate or better than if you are a ‘religious person’. Or that you possess a knowledge that is exclusive. All of that is learned and not who we truly are.

During the whole day what surfaced for me was ‘there is only this, there is no separation. There is only Open Intelligence.’ However later my physical state betrayed me as my heart was racing that night and I could not sleep, I almost wanted the comfort of what religion calls the heavenly father figure..

But the practice of short moments did come to the rescue, and I knew I was not ‘cast out’ or ‘excommunicated’ and could stand apart and yet be emotionally and mentally stable through my Balanced View practice.

with love,

Margaret.

Being gentle with myself

I am so grateful for the Balanced View training for providing me a decisive experience about how I can be gentle with myself. For years I have suffered from extreme negativity toward myself, and it was a vicious cycle of negative thoughts and emotions that led to more negativity. Though there were periods of positive thoughts and emotions, but they didn’t last, so at some point I felt so filled with fear that I will always feel this way.

From the first moment I have met the Balanced View training I​ ​felt the tremendous relief of open intelligence and I understood deeply that I​ ​have the right and the means to be gentle with myself. Since this introductions​ ​I have done the Twelve Empowerment and many other training and I keep close to​ ​the support system that Balanced View offer – and through all of that this​ ​experience of​ ​being gentle with myself just grow deeper and deeper, and I have​ ​more and more trust that in its stability and that it is not going to fade​ ​away. It is such a shift for me, I realize now more and more how much I​ ​suffered  from self-criticism, self-blame and shame and how painful it was​ ​and how it effected my relationships with family and friends. So now having the​ ​deep relaxation that is coming from relying on Open Intelligence, it is like a​ ​sweet nectar that makes everything better – life is joyful, I love and cherish​ ​and enjoy my relationships so much more, more than I could ever imagine, and I am​ ​able to accomplish things I have dreamt about for years in terms of what I really want to do.

With much appreciation for to Balanced View and to its founder,
Candice O’Denver,

Amit

The Great Bliss

Before I met the Balanced View training I was very self conscious, stressed and always worried about what other people think of me.

This has opened so much through recognising the inherent perfection of myself and all there is. All judgements fall away and there is, increasingly, a sparkle and preciousness in the most ordinary of experiences. Because truly, each moment is magic, no matter how it looks like.

It’s the most beautiful thing there is to increasingly recognise the inherent perfection and magic in everything. Life is really wonderful, even the heartbreak, jealousy, sadness, anger, pain etc… all these labels are increasingly pervaded and outshone in great bliss.

Through Candice’s guidance I am able to see the infinite beauty and sacred heart inherent, in everyone, underneath all they might have been conditioned to be.

Candice has the purest heart I have ever witnessed in any human and it’s an unthinkable privilege to learn from her and start to look at the world through the eyes of pure love.

Love Julien

Relief and skillful means in social exclusion

Dear friend,
Thank you for taking an interest in the Balanced View Training and in how you can be of greatest benefit to yourself and all. Recently I saw very clear results of the training, in bringing immediate benefit both to myself and to those around me. I was at a wedding this weekend and there arouse intense data of exclusion, jealousy and envy, both toward the people who were getting married and toward my friends whom I went to the wedding with. My trained reaction was so strong to somehow justify myself: to confront the people who “made” me feel excluded or to indulge the data of sadness and victimhood internally. Instead, through training up the recognition of open intelligence for about four years with the support of the Four Mainstays, it was available to me to rely on open intelligence and on my trainer in heart and mind and feel completely safe and nurtured in the middle of very intimidating data (especially in the situation of the wedding where I felt obliged to feel positive). It was obvious that the comfort and relief, even pleasure, of open intelligence was more compelling than the descriptions and that I could just rest as I was, not needing to avoid or indulge anything that came up or try to make sense of it in any way. It meant immediate benefit for me AND that I was able to show up for empowered, reliable friendship rather than collapsing in my stories about what was going on. I am so grateful to this training and the ongoing support for shining my life up in all areas. My life is more exciting, dignified and expansive than I ever thought possible and I can’t recommend enough to try the training out.
Much love,
Beate.