Thank you for taking an interest in the Balanced View Training. It is the best “thing” that happened in my life and I’d like to share a practical example of the benefits, one that is current in my life.
In relation to ending a long-term intimate relationship, I am experiencing all the normal data streams: rejection, grief, anger, depression, sadness, bitterness, confusion, regret, disappointment, betrayal etc. etc. – you name it 🙂 Quite some time has passed since this relationship ended, but the data are occasionally still coming up, freely and wildly. I see two major benefits in relation to this experience:
1) I am not so much commenting on myself for “still” having these data. I can see in retrospect that I used to keep my mind on such a tight leash, always censoring and correcting its content in different ways according to what I expected of myself or what I perceived society expected. Like now, I probably “should” be over this person and not think about them anymore. I would always tweak my experience in different ways and try to box it into what a “good person” should be. Now, I feel I am completely opening up to life exactly as it is. In this I find great self-love. I feel like a cosy child who is perfectly fine just the way she is, and who does not need to be corrected and analysed in any way. It’s like I have come more to terms with the fact that my mind is wild and wholly and not subject to being corrected or tamed. I don’t need to get rid of the grief, but neither do I need to emphasise it.
2) Through the daily support of the Four Mainstays empowerment network of Balanced View, such as copying text, writing to my trainer, watching media and hanging out with community friends, I am finding that inseparable from the data, however I define it, is this immense, immense love, the deepest intimacy with life and with myself and a sort of wild happiness for everything that me and my partner share. The data is somehow becoming clearer, but in becoming clearer I see it already when it arises and in that moment I have gained the ability to rely on the open, spacious intelligence that pervades it and recognise the ease and power that is always on. I see that this data, in being so reoccurring, is becoming integrated into my everyday experience and a very normalised expression of the complete life-power that is always on – as opposed to some sharp, painful anxiety that I desperately need to get rid of. Amazing!
Today for instance, I see I have had all the data labels that I mentioned in the beginning, but I still feel that it has been a perfect day, filled with purpose, cheer and safety. Wow. The best thing ever is the bliss of not collapsing into data but staying ever-more open, however that looks. I am excited to continue living this life of increasing safety and power and I deeply wish it for everyone who wants it too.
Much love, Beate.