In my work life, I had struggled with easeful communication and relationships due to emphasising negative thoughts and emotions about myself, especially that I wasn’t good enough or as intelligent as others. I tried to replace these thoughts and emotions with positive ones by trying to make myself look better than others and by having ‘the right’ idea or opinion, however this made relationships difficult as it was a game of putting others down and insisting on my ideas being the best.
Until I met the Balanced View Training I had no idea this was playing out. I wasn’t in control of my actions and words. I was at the whim of believing there was something wrong when I experienced certain feelings and thoughts and instinctively my reactions to others when these thoughts and emotions arose came from a place of self-defense.
Six months after being introduced to open intelligence at a Balanced View Open Meeting, I embarked on the Twelve Empowerments. This is the core training of Balanced View and was completely life changing for me.
The simple, step-by-step process, with incredible texts that were so exciting to read, again and again, confirming the innately beneficial nature of human beings and skilfully supporting me to open up all my belief systems, taking a clear and honest look at my relationships and what was going on, seeing for the first time that all my difficulties were caused by one fundamental misunderstanding and providing me with the solution! The one simple change of recognising my thoughts and emotions as open intelligence.
This training shone a light on my entire life in a way that empowered me to make a commitment to the practice of short moments of open intelligence and to rely on the support of the training, a trainer and community.
When challenges arose in my relationships at work and I saw myself shooting off emails I immediately regretted or getting into arguments because I was insisting I was right, I would write to my trainer and receive specific instructions for how to let these thoughts and emotions be as they are and see from the mountain top.
The practise of relaxing for short moments when I felt the urge to react and defend got easier and easier and I saw my communication and relationships with work colleagues really flourish. I have become able to really listen to what others are saying and to contribute what I see respectfully, no longer influenced by my thoughts and emotions and instead empowered by open intelligence and the unity it brings to all circumstances, seeing my work as a place where we are truly working together to be of greatest benefit in all we do and supporting my work colleagues, rather than it being a “Me” project.
I feel very grateful to now also work in teams where everyone is relying on open intelligence. It is just so amazing to experience such a harmonious flow of relating, sharing gratitude for each other and all we contribute, seeing the unique strengths each one has and not feeling threatened by that. Instead just enjoying working together and accomplishing so much.
I am so grateful for the Balanced View Training and the immensely beneficial results that have come about in my life, for all the wonderful trainers, for the global community of amazing participants, many of whom have become dear friends, and especially for the founder Candice O’Denver who has poured her whole life into providing this powerful teaching because she cares so deeply about human beings, knowing that we can live and work together in complete harmony.
With love, Jess