For many years my relationship with my mum had felt like a war zone. A place of repeated misunderstanding and painful interactions for both of us. Before I met the Balanced View Training, I was having therapy sessions and was practicing telling my mum exactly what she had done to hurt me (this time) and why it hurt, on frequent occasions. My mum found this difficult, and so did I, because it just didn’t feel natural to keep drumming up these conversations and basically trying to change my mum so that I could feel okay.
It was amazing then to meet the Balanced View Training and receive the instruction to let people be as they are, to let my data (thoughts, emotions, sensations, experiences) be as it is and to simply relax for short moments as often as I could remember. I also participated in the Twelve Empowerments Training and chose to take support from a Balanced View trainer.
Over the last six years my relationship with my mum has completely flourished. We literally could not spend more than a couple of hours together without saying something hurtful, whereas now we enjoy our time together, we go for coffee and I share love and appreciation for all that she has contributed to me.
Even when my mum reacts and loses her temper, I don’t take it personally. I can simply relax and see how I can support her to do the same. I am much more open when criticism comes my way which allows me to understand where she is coming from and thank her for her insights and requests, when in previous years, what felt like criticism would have gone straight to my heart and I would have indulged anger and sadness, believing my mum didn’t love me, when in fact, she was just doing her very best to express her wishes in the only way she has learned how.
It is such a gift to discover that my mum is also doing her very best to be of benefit and to honor this with gratitude even when my thoughts and feelings are going wild in the opposite direction. By relying on open intelligence I am empowered to see I am fundamentally perfect just as I am, and to see this about others too. The natural stability I experience, no matter what comes up, is unaffected by any data, so I can respond to all situations with an open heart and the clear-seeing of a balanced view. It is such a gift and I am incredibly grateful for the Balanced View teaching in my life, for my trainer and for everything Candice has done to ensure all relationships can be harmonized and enjoyed, just as human beings were always born to live together in a beautiful, wonder-filled way. The love I feel in my heart for my mum when I think of her now is the love I feel for everyone in the world and it is incredible to consider what the world would look like if everyone was relying on open intelligence, knowing the true nature of data.