The Profundity of Letting Everything Be As It Is

I reflected recently about why this training is so profound for me, why I am so hooked to it even though depression, sadness, self criticism and other negative data are still part of my life. I realize that it is exactly this facing of the negative data, without trying to avoid it, which attracts me so much. I see in this the real fearlessness I was always wanting, as I know that even though I wish life to be all positive, really there is no way to control thoughts and emotion, or life situations in general. I am saying that because I tried to control them for very long time, and I was never able to do that, and always after “good periods” there always came “negative” times.

Actually I never really believed any training or anyone who told me they are happy all the time, there is simply something contrived about it. So I love the total relief from this effort to be happy or positive, and the relaxation in everything as it is.

I am really marveled again and again by the profundity of letting everything be as it is without avoiding, replacing or trying to change it. I mean, I still prefer to be happy and positive, but what I see more and more that it is actually the outshining of hope and fear that I want the most. So I am grateful to the Four Mainstays for being a real stable and reliable support system as I go through outshining of all these data stream.

I love knowing in my own experience what “empowerment” means, what “stability in all circumstances” means, what “well-being” means, “harmonization of relationship” and so many other of the benefits the training promise. It is simply a marvel to see these benefits truly come about in my own life and in the life of my community friends, and I am so grateful to Balanced View for providing the Four Mainstays lifestyle and all the tools and the support needed for extracting all the benefits of this training.

The Instant Oasis of Short Moments

I recall going through life learning to focus on what I lacked; that I never quite had what I needed to be okay. I needed to be thinner, I needed to never feel depressed or angry, I needed to be smarter and more interesting so more people would like me, I needed way more money and all the experiences and objects that money could afford. The list of vague, dreamy desires was literally endless. Residing in the middle of a stagnant tornado of wants, never knowing there was another option, I had no idea how painful of a way that was to live.

Even as I attained certain desires or adopted new ones, I found shifting around the contents of my life didn’t take that thorn out of my paw, and that became more and more depressing and confusing. Happiness and contentment felt elusive, like an invisible slippery fish I could never keep hold of. Everywhere I went, someone or something was telling me that if I worked hard enough, my happiness could be found in attaining all the things and experiences I craved, and in only feeling positive thoughts and emotions while avoiding the negative ones. My heart aches at this impossible task that is thrust upon us as if it were true.

When I met the Balanced View Training, I was met with the message again and again that I was okay regardless of my circumstances, thoughts or emotions. At first I felt affronted by this, “How dare you tell me I’m already okay, I don’t have all the things I want and I think so many negative thoughts! I am not good enough yet! Maybe you can say you’re okay because you don’t really know what it’s like to be depressed, or you have more money than me and never have to worry about paying rent…” Defensive ideas would whir and flare up at any mention that right here, right now, with whatever was going on in my life, I could relax and recognize that I am always stable and well, regardless of any data I was experiencing.

But even with sometimes intense resentments and victimhood flaring up during the years I’ve showed up to this incredible training, fortuitously, I kept coming back. Whatever ideas or doubts I had, I was magnetized by the lived example of so many relaxed and stable beings that demonstrated such natural integrity and authenticity. No matter how close I analyzed, how much I tried to pick apart certain advice or suggestions given to me, the trainers and participants in Balanced View met me with openness, empowerment, and effortlessly walking the walk they were speaking about in their own everyday life. Nowhere in sight was there any, “Do as I say, not as I do,” but rather, as I showed up and got to know the beautiful trainers, participants, and Candice, I saw people from all walks of life facing all intensities of situations and experiences with a natural stability and openness that I did not know was possible in human beings, and realized that was what I actually wanted in life. Not objects, not certain positive experiences, but contentment, stability and relaxation in every moment, regardless of what I was thinking or feeling. Was it actually possible?

As trust grew, I became willing to test the simple instruction offered in Balanced View in every facet of daily life—the good, the bad and the ugly. For short moments, whenever I naturally remembered, I relaxed completely with whatever I was thinking, feeling or experiencing. Sometimes it was easy and an instant relief, sometimes it felt impossible and I would have the openness more and more to actively rely on the other Mainstays such as my trainer, the endless free media on www.balancedview.org, and an incredible community of friends that I had connected with through clarity calls and online trainings.

Relying on short moments and the Mainstays was not instantly comfortable for me; but with each situation I tested relaxing body and mind completely for even just a short moment—whether it was with racing thoughts at night when trying to get to sleep, or in a depressed void of hopelessness where it felt like nothing mattered—it became more and more natural, helpful and powerful in every single circumstance.

When talking to various people I felt I didn’t like or want to be around, I tested if could relax and remain open without making the stories that I don’t like them the filter through which I treated or spoke to them. I discovered so many beautiful interactions and connections that I would have never experienced due to flimsy, illusory ideas I had projected onto other human beings. “They are weird, they are boring, they are annoying, they are too negative and I feel affected by their negativity…” quieted down and gradually ceased altogether. Now, even if judgemental ideas of someone do arise, they are no longer taken to be instantly true just because I thought them. Practicing short moments in these situations, less and less did I even bother with categorizing people into those I like and those I don’t, and a beautiful openness and innate respect bloomed and continues to bloom naturally.

When I felt like I had way too much to do—too many shifts at work, deadlines, responsibilities I didn’t think I wanted—could I relax there too? Over time, willing to be willing, I discovered again and again: yes. I got to see directly that being relaxed did not mean I wasn’t alert, active, and doing things. In fact, being relaxed during all responsibilities and tasks such as hard physical work or exercise, errands, helping customers at work—I saw I could accomplish so much more and with a higher quality of care and attention when thoughts of stress, overwhelm and avoidance were not my primary focus.

If the thoughts do arise, “This is too much, I can’t do this, I’d rather not be doing anything…”, they are as harmless as floating dandelion seeds or ever-shifting clouds; no power over me or need to avoid or get rid of them. More and more what is of most benefit to all—myself included in the all—is obvious and natural, and my true heart-wish. What is of most benefit does not mean only what will bring me the most positive data, and I am so grateful to see this now and not be strung along by that carrot on a stick.

Through participating in Balanced View in whatever ways felt natural for me, over time a steadfast awareness has become obvious that I am already okay, already complete as I am, with whatever is going on. No vacation, no amount of money, no slough of perfectly positive experiences can add to that okayness or take it away if I don’t get them. This is something I still and forever have the pleasure of discovering anew in every situation that arises; positive, negative or neutral. Even the categories of positive, negative and neutral are less and less noticed, and that is so relaxing and exciting. From there I am just free to live and enjoy the fruit of all experiences and what they have to teach me, if I am open to that.

I am indescribably grateful for the instant oasis of short moments, beloved Candice, my beautiful trainer, a global community of inspiring friends, and so many talks and written media available to me that I could not watch or read it all in one lifetime. I have the joy of discovering, with tender appreciation, everything I already have when the constant focus on wanting more, better, different data streams is relaxed and outshone like sunlight filling space. This is the most humbling and unexpected gift I could have ever been given, and it just keeps giving in each short moment of recognizing what actually is.

Amazing Support

The Four Mainstays of Balanced View are truly a wonder of trust and amazing support!!! To have a Trainer and a Root Trainer, Training, Media, and a Community that give me the most profound guidance and trust in my day to day life is the most precious gift of gifts!!. I used to have difficulties in relating to others, to be close and present when I met my children, wife and people. Today I have the most open and warm loving relations to all, and my relationship to my family is so wonderful and filled with pure love!!! With the support of the Four Mainstays I can leave all my thoughts and emotions as they are and be more close to what I truly am, and this is such a marvellous gift!!!

I also used to suffer very much from Rheumatism sins nearly 30 years. By the support of The Four Mainstays and resting continuously with all the pain and feelings of being a victim of this, I am so much better in my body, and today I almost never thinking of my bodily condition at all.
Love Per

 

Unimaginable Blessings

 

It is almost impossible to believe how well this training works.

I remember early on helping to put up Balanced View posters in my hometown, posters which included the statement ‘complete mental and emotional stability.’ Reading these words at the time, I was concerned that the claim was too audacious and that no one reading would consider the offering as valid.

At the time, my own perspective on these words took them to represent perhaps a bold stand and willingness to take a positive outlook. But also somehow, and I have no idea why I felt/knew/sensed this, I did believe in the magic these words offered. I use the word magic because to get from the reality I lived then to the world these words offered was going to take something like a miracle.

I am so amazingly grateful for the feeling/knowing/sense that left me open to commit fully to this training.

Six years later I am authentically living very, very, remarkably close to complete mental and emotional stability.  The amount of trust I have that everything is unfolding perfectly and as it should; my daily cheerfulness; how much I adore and love so many things that were previously just taken for granted; how easeful and rich my personal relationships are; how I am able to enjoy the adventure of taking on very challenging undertakings and succeed with ease; frankly, it’s breath taking. This life is nothing short of a miracle.

If there is any frustration at all it is that many, many more people (really everyone and anyone), haven’t also taken on this radical and completely alternate way of living.  Unfortunately, at this point in our current world culture, ‘complete emotional and mental stability’ is a giant leap of the imagination. But I know that as more of us make this reality the fabric of our very own lives, it will become more and more plausible for others.

Freedom in immediate perception in panic attacks and terror

My first panic attack was obvious and overwhelming at an early age. I have a clear memory of sitting in school, running out of breath, and finally fainting again and again. The way the grown-ups around me handled it was by giving me a paper bag to breathe in so I got less oxygen. Years later I got the diagnosis of ”highly sensitive.”

So began my awareness about the breath and my focus on trying to figure out how to control it. Finding ease sometimes was my drive and goal. I was driven by fear and I tried out everything you can imagine to find release, from one extreme to another. Born in the lap of Jesus, I prayed, found different meditation programmes, and did psychotherapy for years, endlessly looking into myself.

When I met Balanced View I had strategies to avoid
situations that triggered me and I could replace one feeling with another, but it was by trying hard in a tense state. There was no natural relaxation. The teaching in Balanced View was all about relaxation and letting everything be as it is. A profound freedom entered me by only hearing this: ”Rest is Best!”

In short moments I started to relax everything without trying to fix anything, without expecting a miracle – only a way out of the underlying anguish for short moments, and by that to get longer and longer moments of freedom in all there is. I was resting until one day it was automatic. That was for me a miracle after all these years; putting energy into my moods was gone. I was still sensitive but the negative influence was gone.

Right from the first short moment of clarity, opening intelligence, came a calmness into my being never known before. And this tool was with me all the time, 24/7. The victimhood was gone and my clinging in
relationships was outshone. I didn’t need anyone to give shelter to me. I was lighter in my mindstreams and there was an all-pervasive underlying ease. My breath was not my enemy anymore – it was the link to pure feed in breathing in and out everything that was passing through me. I was not alone anymore because I could see that it was the same for everyone, it was only lightsignals from my humanness. Together with most of my family I am committed to the Four Mainstays of Balanced View. There I found a safety net beyond compare. In my own direct
experience I knew this could be trusted.

The help from a short moment, whenever I remember; a personal trainer; teachings telling me ”I am perfect as I am”; and training media and a living Root trainer, who is leading me to outshine all descriptions into ”perfect as I am” together with a worldwide community, is the
end of suffering. What one can not do alone we can do together! I am grateful beyond words for this new life. Never more a separate entity, only human with all that comes with that; nothing stays forever. I hope all beings will come to know Great Freedom as themselves.

 In love

 Åsa Gröndal

A story of a thought

I’d like to share a story of a data (thought) – as far as I look back, I can recall a belief system that came up – its title can be summarized as “I’m not good enough” – not knowing how to rest naturally with this innocent data, in many ways it ruled my life, bringing endless mental entanglements that lasted for days and ensuing actions in the world.

Thinking it would help, for years I tried to be a good person and contribute all around – yet to no avail – it was still there.

I can recall vividly the day I was at the Balanced View center in the south of Sweden, I was walking down a flight of stairs – then it came up again, and as our precious Root Teacher Candice O’Denver has guided us, it was left as it is – and for the first time in my life it faded naturally leaving no trace – I was amazed – A dream come true, the most sweetest present I could think of then.

I wish to thank Candice O’Denver the founder of Balanced View, the trainers and the community for the endless support in resting naturally.

Taking a year to be close to the Mainstays

Last year I had quit my job and took a sabbatical to be close to the Balanced View teaching and the network of support it offers (the Four Mainstays) and this was such an amazing year!

In just 1 year I joined 3 gatherings in Sweden, 2 gatherings in San Rafael, I
traveled around Sweden and Norway and visited  amazing communities and dear friends (some old friends, some I met on the way), I supported my local community in Israel (we had about 20 face to face meetings during 6 months period!), and I spent most amazing time with community in the US and Canada.

During this year so much had opened up for me, mostly I don’t feel so restricted by the ideas I had about myself. I don’t feel so restricted by the fears of what people will think of me or what will happen in the future. I feel that I have stable caring support system so I can break through all these limiting ideas, and live my life as I really want, finding my passions along the way and trusting my abilities to be responsive and responsible, and that I don’t need to do or not do something just because I am afraid of what will happen. This is such a profound shift for me and I am so grateful for this opportunity to be so close to the Mainstays.

I am also so grateful to all the amazing friends whom I have met through Balanced View. I have friends all over the world, amazing people who I would have never met in any other way. And it is so clear that people are so talented, so caring, so loving, so amazing. It is so clear that we all share this underlying basis of empowerment and deep care for the benefit of all. And I know, that when this is the common ground which brings us together, then meeting people and being together is simply a joy.

I am so grateful to Candice O’Denver for structuring this training in such a
caring way and offering so generously the Four Mainstays support structure, which is always available for everyone-everywhere-anytime. I am happy that for the first time in my life I get to choose a lifestyle, and I choose a lifestyle of mutual support and empowerment, of being of benefit to all, and of sharing our talents and taking good care of each other.

It is so beautiful to take part in a real grassroot empowering social movement which has the power to support everyone-everywhere-anytime, where people are given their birthrights freely and are empowered to be of benefit to all. I see that from the empowerment of individuals who are standing up to meet their true potential, then can come the empowerment of a sane human society that stands up
to meet its potential to take good care of all beings and the planet.

With
great gratitude,

Amit
Harpaz

Israel,
2017

True freedom in all experience

My first introduction to open intelligence was during a second date with my partner Max around six years ago, the above picture one of our first together.  Enjoying the beach and looking out into the waves, at some point he asked me to stop thinking, and check out what remained.  I noticed that a bright alertness remained whether I was thinking or not, and I said, “Wow!” 

Max regularly watched free videos offered on the Balanced View website, and it was all kind of scary and unfamiliar to me initially.  I did not grow up with positive ideas or trust in organizations, having the concept tarnished by religious groups and extremists on one spectrum or the other.  So, I concluded without investigation that it wasn’t for me and left it as “Some thing Max does” in my mind for a number of months.

At one point, Max sent me a video by a Balanced View trainer named Nina.  He had casually sent me various other videos now and then, but I usually brushed them aside and “forgot to watch them”.  Fortuitously, this time when he sent me this particular video, it was a quiet day at my job at the time and I had nothing else to do but watch.  For the first couple of minutes I remained subtly skeptical and half-listening until Nina mentioned something that potently caught my attention and quite literally sat me up in my chair.

Intrigued and curious, I went on to watch every single one of her videos. I started to branch out and watch other trainer and participant shares, and see Balanced View was comprised of all different ages, backgrounds and experiences, yet sharing the same common focus of mutual empowerment and support to discover that in us all which is unchanged and unaffected by anything we experience in life.  Wherever they came from or however old or young they were, they spoke with a relaxation, confidence and genuineness that I recognized and appreciated in a society where no one truly spoke or lived that way that I could see.

Although much of what was shared in the videos I watched was not yet my direct experience, I wanted to understand, and still enjoyed a natural relaxation evoked when watching.  It was especially helpful for me to watch them when I was feeling afflicted by something; providing a space and permission to pause my obsessions and listen openly.  While watching and letting my data be as it is, very often solutions and empowerment in affliction was realized naturally, and I understood further and more directly what was being offered in Balanced View.

We eventually joined clarity calls, and for the first little while, it could feel awkward as I wasn’t confident reading aloud or sharing my direct experience; not wanting to seem like I didn’t know something or whatever the fear may have been.  I feel very lucky that I did not stop attending to avoid feeling certain data streams. We took an introduction training, where the trainers offered us the most gentle yet powerful introduction to innate open intelligence and provided the perfect support.  To interact with trainers directly, asking them any questions I had, seeing their natural relaxation; it was all a total gift to behold and experience, and provided me more insight into why I wanted to participate.  The natural ease and openness they spontaneously demonstrated could not be put on or contrived, and I knew instinctively that was possible in my life as well.

The 12 Empowerments training was an incredible experience to share with other human beings.  There were participants of all ages living in various parts of the world, and I was so inspired by each question asked and share given.  Things I was too afraid to ask, someone else would, and I would think, “THANK YOU!  I wanted to know about this too!”  It was a power-packed time together twice a week where I normalized so much data that I had been afraid to look at openly; becoming willing to see them as helpful pointers to relax and recognize open intelligence instead of seeing them as enemies that needed to be eradicated or avoided.

During and after the Empowerments, I had the great pleasure of more deeply getting to know community members from all over the world either via the internet or in-person at gatherings.  Speaking to trainers and community members in person was another huge shift for me, and even more potent of a demonstration to see practically what it looks like for beings to be totally relaxed, open, and available right in front of my eyes.  It is palpably noticeable when someone is not living at the whim of their data streams, and I found it so alluring, clarifying and encouraging to witness first-hand.

As the constant self-focus of how I was feeling and what I thought I needed to do or obtain in order to be okay faded, so much energy was freed up to be of service to others.  Around the time of first discovering this, my mom had undergone a hip replacement, and it didn’t feel right to me that she should have to worry about her yard or house work while recovering, so I asked if there was anything I could help with.  I was blown away by her gratitude and sweetness, and continue to enjoy that time with her often.  I like to remember and embody my granny while cleaning the yard and house that she used to tidy and organize so well for all of us; my heart glows with her presence with every sweep of my broom.  These are things that previously were not obvious to me, completely overlooking for so long what I already had and how sweet and complete life already was.

As I continued to utilize and enjoy the Mainstays in my life—the trainings and online media, my trainer, a community of friends, and short moments of recognizing open intelligence in whatever I was experiencing—I would suddenly realize in retrospect certain data streams that had caused me the most affliction had dissolved naturally like mist into air.  Social awkwardness and anxiety that I tried to avoid by looking a certain way, speaking in a contrived confidence that wasn’t true, sharing only negative criticisms of others, and many other misguided tactics, was now a natural anticipation and excitement to simply enjoy another’s company and listen openly; not needing anyone to be a certain way for me to feel okay.  Self-hatred or subtly never feeling good enough or that nothing I did was worth sharing was now thriving in and as my natural strengths, gifts, and talents, and sharing openly without the burden of feeling I had to prove something or fit in to some box.  Depression, which had felt like the unwelcome and constant background hum of a florescent light—when it wasn’t a full-blown dark pit of despair—one day I realized was not a problem to feel, and then stopped noticing it altogether.  These are just a few of many potent results I have experienced by participating in Balanced View.

My deepest, deepest gratitude to Candice, Max, and so many beautiful trainers and participants for introducing me to a life of the greatest freedom that just keeps getting more easeful, enjoyable, and fun.  You show me what is possible and shine like the brightest stars in the sky, guiding me home. It is the greatest adventure and delight to participate in Balanced View, and I’d recommend anyone interested to test it out in your own life.  I am so glad I did.

In love and respect, Megan

Empowering Anxiety

For many years I experienced a lot of anxiety. Mostly it showed up when I had to talk to people: neighbours, friends and even family. I would hide and burn with fear and plan how to avoid people. Going into local shops and stores was like walking into a court room for my own trial. A storm of negative thoughts and a feeling of dread overwhelmed me. If people were friendly to me it was like becoming their prisoner. And it wasn’t just anxiety about people, I felt a terrible anxiety every time I switched my phone on in the morning. The little signature tune it played brought on a fear that felt like a sickness in my stomach.

Then I met the Balanced View Training and participated in the Twelve Empowerments Online Training and things started to really shift in my life. I was relying on the practice of the training, “short moments of open intelligence” whenever I naturally remembered to do so and I saw that when I was talking to someone I could take a short moment and relax body and mind completely. In so doing, I could simply allow any anxious thoughts or sensations that arose to be just as they were, without going further into their descriptions. There was a sense of ease and okay-ness that I hadn’t recognized before. I realized that I had a choice to either emphasise my anxiety or instead, I could relax in a short moment and rely on the innate stability, ease and clarity of open intelligence.

I became more confident and better able to express myself and this meant I could enjoy being with other people without that having to look a certain way. It was very empowering. I feel so grateful to Balanced View for these amazing changes and my gratitude increases. I feel so fortunate to be able to access the love and support that is offered all day, every day from the website, the Balanced View teams and my trainer. Thank you.

With appreciation

Ged

Mental and emotional stability

This Balanced View Training is truly wonderful!! With the great and wonderful support of The Four Mainstays I realised that i can completely rest with the feelings of hope, fear and victimhood.

This has completely changed my life, and i found that resting and letting these feelings be as they are,
give me a profound clarity and emotional, mental stability I never had before.

With this wonderfulI stability I am able to really appreciate and enjoy my day to day life,
to be truly happy and content in everything I do. This is such a wonder!!!

In my work as an artist it is so obvious how I now can be so focused and find great solutions on the fly,
and reach new levels and new aspects in creating!!!
To rely on the Four Mainstays is truly so wonderful and making life so filled with gratitude and pure love!!!

With gratitude. Per