I would like to share my experience of relying on the support of the Four Mainstays in stress and stress related health issues.
About one year after I met the Balanced View Training I developed symptoms of fatigue, which for me was expressed through much physical and mental tiredness and a poor immune system. Today, almost two years later, I can see the immense benefit I have received from the support of the Mainstays when going through this process.
The first thing that comes to mind is the immediate tool of short moments of relaxation when stress comes up. Rather than having to create certain circumstances, be with certain people or even better alone, and micro manage my life in other ways, short moments have increasingly allowed me to access the relaxation of a warm bath or a yoga class instantaneouysly. Short moments have also helped in connecting to the power and courage to eventually start working and activating myself again, something that, as I understand, is often advised in order to rehabilitate oneself.
My trainer has also been a huge asset for expanding my power and beliefs of what I ”can” and ”cannot” do, where I would otherwise have been totally blind sighted by fear of getting ill again. In the community, I have many powerful role models with similar experiences who inspire my greatly in taking best care of my health, something that more and more is becoming a joy and a pleasure—where before I would always push myself as far as possible.
Taking part of the training, for instance through Clarity Calls has also been a vital part of my everyday life, supporting me to cut the stories of victimhood and fear and instead allow everything to be as it is and trust in the basic goodness of life and that all is fundamentally well. I read a blogpost the other day where someone shared their story of fatigue and when comparing my journey to the victimhood and disempowerment they expressed, I realised just how normalised empowerment and support is in my life, thanks to the Mainstays, and how immensely grateful I am to be continuously supported in this area of my life.
Best wishes on your journey, Beate in Sweden.
The whole idea of self-love has always felt like something I need to do, and then I will be happy.
I just have to love myself, but how? I read books and tried out different things but all of them felt like an effort. Since meeting Balanced View, self-love has come about naturally with the great ease of letting myself be as I am. The practice of short moments, just relaxing with whatever is occurring, wow, that simplifies self-love.
I can emphasise my thoughts and emotions, decide they are wrong and they need to change. I can indulge in misery because I feel like life is not going well, but in the end, I am the one giving myself a hard time, just by using my mind in this outdated way.
I am so grateful to Candice and Balanced View for introducing me to the most natural way to be with my mind. Every time I relax with my thoughts and recognise they are just the natural flow of my open intelligence, that they come and go like a breeze in the air, then I give myself the gift of self-love. I kiss my mind, perfect as it is, perfect as I am, with each short moment of open intelligence. No matter what I am thinking, all is pure beneficial energy, nothing to avoid, indulge or replace, it is perfectly beautiful and powerful!
What I love most about this practice is that each short moment of self-love is a short moment of loving everyone, exactly as they are. This is true love, true compassion. Each time I let something I don’t like about myself be as it is, I am able to do the same for others and relationships that felt difficult, people I disliked, people I avoided because of my own thoughts and emotions. All this just eases up and blends into love inseparable from everyone.
When I look out at the world, I understand all the hatred. The wanting to fight with others because of emotions like jealousy, arrogance, hatred, not feeling good enough. If everyone knew they could simply relax for a short moment when they felt like this, wow, the world would be a different place ❤ and that’s how we bring about this change. I see this absolutely. With each short moment I contribute the most precious gift of loving humanity as it is. I contribute love ❤ Thank you to Candice and thank you to Balanced View!
What Balanced View teaches me is the preciousness of each moment, however the moment looks. Every moment is a reminder to relax and be at peace with myself and the more I take part in the training, less and less is there anything about myself that I avoid facing, which also means that less and less I avoid facing others fully.
I see such difference in how I relate to myself, how I am in work situations, in meeting people and the basic view I have on our society and what is going on in the world. There is a sense of ease and solution focus.
For me, being a part of the global Balanced View community, is like coming home. It feels so real and alive as I stop trying to change myself, being something that I am not, and everyone else does the same. This gives me such an open field to grow into my own full capacity and potency.
I am so grateful for this life and for the opportunity to build a society that is based on inner peace and flourishing of each and everyones unique qualities.
The gratitude I feel for Balanced View is so immense. Every day I see the results of the Training in my life, in my relationships, in everything I do. Where I before went into stories of not being capable or fear of getting ill, I can now rest completely and be at ease and solution focused in every circumstance. Great cheer!
Having a trainer and this amazing community of friends all over the world is the greatest gift of my life. I live a life of complete empowerment with my strengths, gifts and talents flourishing and whatever comes up and whenever it comes up there is the most precious support available, 24/7, amazing! Thank you amazing Candice for The Four Mainstays and thank you Balanced View. It is completely clear to me now that a life of ease, empowerment and cheer is possible, I live it! Thank you! <3 Emma
Today I would like to share about the increased sense of general life satisfaction and well-being I experience through living the Balanced View Four Mainstays lifestyle. My experience is that there is a more and more constant ”background noise” of excitement in my everyday life. You know that feeling of looking forward to something, of being excited about plans for the weekend or for the summer? That feeling pops up more and more often. I find myself trying to relate it to something exciting in the future or in the past. But usually there isn’t anything specific going on; there’s nothing in the descriptions or the circumstances that’s changed. Rather, the excitement and sense of magic and fun sneaks into everyday, mundane activities. This morning for example, having my morning coffee was, to my surprise, in itself a deeply fulfilling and complete experience. The short moments’ practice in this regard has meant that ordinary experiences have become extra-ordinary; tapping into open intelligence again and again has allowed for natural excitement to light the experience up from the inside. To me this is wonderful to recognise since I always wanted everyday life to be filled with ”presence”, fun and curiosity and looked for it, for example, in the right job—but I was never able to hold the exciting circumstances or feelings in place. Much gratitude to the Four Mainstays for allowing short moments to go continuous! Beate from Sweden.
I had a very ambitious and successful mother, however having a career never appealed to me. Meanwhile, I got a graduate degree, was cast as the lead in an off-Broadway show, a movie star asked me to marry him, published in professional journals, had several businesses, studied several different healing professions to high levels but couldn’t commit to or care about anything. Nothing felt real or true or important. I was so frustrated and bored and confused about this all my life, for many decades. Nothing seemed meaningful enough to devote all of my time, my whole self and my full heart. ‘Meaning’ was something that I was literally confused about every single day — frustrated about “what is the point of all this?” I would wake up depressed and with no purpose.
Since I started this training this has entirely disappeared for me. Everything I do is done with purpose and care. I can do anything I want and, in fact, I do everything I want. I am very busy studying an approach to finance and have been for a couple of years, but that is not who I am and is equal with washing the dishes or combing my dogs or hanging out with my loved ones. I am never depressed or confused. If I experience these states they pass by without any sting or cling, like clouds passing in a blue sky. I don’t know what I did to change this. All I did was keep showing up for the Balanced View training.
I went to psychotherapists more times than I can count — this is the only thing I have ever done that has changed my life for the better, much better, fundamentally. It is not like being in a better state temporarily — it is a change that can not go backwards. I am unalterably joyful and caring in my life. This is who I am now.
One of the many gems this teaching provides me with is the amazing support network. One of Balanced View‘s Four Mainstays is the Trainer, and I really appreciate having a trainer to whom I can ask questions in how I can gain confidence in open intelligence. I feel it is extra supportive when my mind goes crazy with all afflictive thoughts, emotions, and sensations. Like this week I have had lots of resistance of doing everyday life tasks, but instead of beating myself up for not living up to my expectations of what I think I should be producing, I can simply be gentle with myself and see that it is fine to have some time off and not be very active.
With the support of my great Trainer, these kinds of insights and many others I can see is a lived experience and it all happens very quickly so I don’t have to ponder in these kinds of things for ages and blame myself during and after. I simply let it be as it is and continue on in daily life with what I am doing.
The Trainer is the most valuable person I have in life and I am so grateful for this magical being. Thank you, dear Trainer!
With love and gratitude,
My name is Åsa and I am 63 years old. I found this teaching 10 years ago and it changed my life completely. My ups and downs never get hold of me anymore. The support from Balanced View is brilliant. In my family we are five persons involved in the teaching, each one with their own teacher. I have been searching for an end of my suffering and pain for a lifetime. Now the search is over. It is the easy way because there is nowhere to go and no one going there. Everything found in a short moment of open intelligence. There is no more grasping for change of myself and others. All is well, just as it is. This is it!
The other day, I suddenly felt overwhelmed by negative data (emotions and thoughts). I went to my bedroom because I knew I was going to cry. I simply put on a talk by the founder of Balanced View, Candice O’Denver. Her soothing words, which illicit the recognition of open intelligence, reminded me to take a short moment. I saw that everything was okay; I could just let the data flow on by. One short moment and I was able to go downstairs and spend time with friends, laughing and enjoying with them. This is a miracle!
Thank you so much, Balanced View 🙂