A beautiful everyday life

Dearest reader,

I am living in Stockholm, Sweden, am a musician and love living Four Mainstays life. I am so happy for having this precious opportunity to write on this blog and share my experience. I will share my experience how the Four Mainstays has helped me as a musician and performing.

I have been playing music for many, many years (17 years ago, since I was ten) and been studying at various schools and colleges where I have met many musicians. I am very grateful for the education I’ve got and the people I’ve met.

Since I met the Balanced View training, the relationship I have with music now is totally different. Earlier on, I was focusing on learning as many tunes as I could, accumulate knowledge, thought of what other people thought about me when sitting on stage, what people would say afterward, try to fit as the normal being, not stick out, but at the same time having my own musical identity and unique expression. This was very difficult to keep up and took me a lot of energy. Also keeping track on how other people did, but pretend that no one noticed what I was thinking of. It happened consciously and unconsciously.

So, when meeting the precious Four Mainstays, I got such a beautiful support from my trainer to step by step let these ideas of mine be as they were. I reflected on my situation, came to the conclusion that I did not want to be a victim of this any longer. What I really wanted was freedom. Freedom in the immediacy of perception. Not free OF it, but free IN and AS it. Not replace, indulge or avoid. I wanted complete freedom in all my experience and I knew that this was possible after meeting some precious beings who role modeled this way to relating to life.

All this haunting and drilling myself, mentally beating myself up for not being good enough, being a better person etc., I wanted a stop. Being nervous – fail. Cold hands – fail. Tension – fail. Playing wrong – fail.

Something I was very worried about giving up was “If I relax, try out what is suggested in the teaching, and not try to be something but just give up the identity I was trying to hold on to, will I still love music?”

I gave a go. 8 years ago I picked up the first Balanced View book, and today I am writing on this blog with a big smile on my face 🙂

The wonder of the Four Mainstays

I am so immensely grateful to come across the Balanced View training!! I used to feel very much like a victim for all kinds of circumstances. By the training i realized that i could completely rest with all my feelings and thoughts. To completely let everything be as it is . This is so amazingly empowering and making me live life with an ever opening heart, completely filled with pure love, completely empowered in my day to day life!!!!

The wonder of the Four Mainstays!!! What an precious gift of gifts this is!!!

With gratitude Per

Got rid of depression

In 2011 I was depressed with low energy and bathing in “black” thoughts everyday as I woke up. After a few weeks of listening to free talks by the Balanced View teachers, I noticed that I was not longer depressed. By sharing their own experience they reinforced again and again that I was perfect just as I am. After involving myself even more with the teachings starting 1,5 year ago, I see now that I am a much happier person and that any so-called negative thoughts and emotions don’t bother me for hours anymore. They are gone within microseconds to seconds, as I let them be just as they are.

The results so far of involving myself with the Balanced View training has been life-enriching!

Thank You for an Easeful Relationship to Food and Self-Care

Thank you so much for coming together to explore empowerment in all areas of life. The media is very powerful and so supportive to spend
time with, as well as reflecting on my experience of the benefits of
the Balanced View Training and share my experience with others, which allows me to be clearer and honest. I really love the topic of food from
open intelligence and love to share about how it has opened

up for me.

I have come such a long way in my relationship to food
since finding the Mainstays. I no longer use food as an antidote,
but as an opportunity to care for myself, and I never thought it
could become so easeful and loving. I have such clarity and
stability around what to eat each day, and I am totally flexible.

I used to be completely dogmatic, arrogant and opinionated.

When I was raw vegan I would try to convince everyone to eat raw vegan. When I followed the macrobiotic diet, I insisted everyone should do the
same. It felt so limiting and frustrating, and I was scattered,
not able to keep the focus on myself. In the Training I
learned real compassion, humility, respect and allowing everyone the
space and dignity they deserve to make their own choices. I have
also seen that my ideas of what is of most benefit were not always
accurate or beneficial.

I breathe such a sigh of relief for my openness now and living from that is a blessing. I can simply focus on myself and rely on open intelligence, rather than ideas and belief systems, to inform my choices. Endless gratitude for this and for the opportunity to care for myself with the open
intelligence cure-all that includes everything with sharp discernment
and perfect love!

Thank you so much.

With all my love.


Only Connect

Today, in desperation I went to the Hospital to the  ENT Outpatients department. I have had only one hearing ear since birth and if my ‘good ear’ becomes blocked I am totally deaf and unable to communicate with any one aurally.  My regular appointment wasn’t scheduled until the end of October and in the present difficult climate for hospital admittance I knew my chances of getting on the spot treatment were very slim indeed. I found a quiet place and connected with Open Intelligence and simply relaxed, letting all my anxiety dissipate. In reception I explained my state,I had no appointment and was completely without hearing, I asked the receptionist to write her answer on a notepad.  She wrote that she would enquire, I was to wait.

I waited two hours and during this time I wrote the following poem. At the end of the waiting I was admitted and treated , released and  able  joyously to hear again.


Only Connect To Open Intelligence.

We are but atoms

made of tissue lighter than thistledown,

finer than fairy dust,

insubstantial as air.

Yet linked to such a  powerful source of light

that few before us have ever tapped.


When we but connect

we flow with that self same power.

We become open, naked in its flame,

and know Love for the first time,

become its pure, shining,breathing force,

transformed by its indestructible immanence

into purest beneficial gold.

Such gratitude for the Four Mainstays

I’m very grateful for the Four Mainstays of Balanced View. Before meeting this precious teaching in my life, I would use a lot of time and energy looking for positive experiences, positive emotions and sensations and when this was not the case, I would spend a lot of time thinking what was wrong. I was also under the belief that, that I must speak my frustrations and I was not aware of using my speech in a way that could benefit all in any given circumstance. To be given the tool of short moments of opening intelligence, gives me profound insight into how I wish to use my speech and activities for what benefits a greater perspective. I’m very grateful for that and it brings my life so much satisfaction and deep joy, only from this benefit alone. Before the teaching, I would also use a lot of time thinking endlessly about what other people would say to me or look at me, and try always to draw some kind of conclusion, that could help me in how I wished to respond to the people around me. All of this very effortful way of relating has become much more spontaneous and with less focus on all the arising thoughts emotions and sensations, which is such a great freedom. I feel so much more aligned in my life, with greater ease and greater power to see what serves all. My Gratitude for the Four Mainstays is endless and so vast and my heart expands with joy, for how it is available for everyone. It’s truly a miracle.

Looking for real independence and authenticity.

Dearest newcomer to Balanced View,

Thank you so much for showing an interest in how you can be of most benefit in your life. I have been involved in Balanced View for about two and a half years. Prior to meeting the training it was always very important for me to be (or at least seem) independent in my life: as a woman, as a spiritual seeker etc. I was never interested in taking part in an organisation, I might even have seen it as a failure to “depend” on a teacher or community. Another thing that has always been very important for me is authenticity—to live a true, genuine life of integrity. So here I am today, completely held and flourishing in the Four Mainstays lifestyle, completely held and flourishing in all experiences, painful or cheerful.

What I have found through relying on short moments of relaxation and openness, a never-ending supply of teaching media, my personal open intelligence-guide and the community of people who also want to rely on relaxation and openness is that both these values—independence and authenticity—are more alive in my life than I had ever experienced prior to the training. I am supported to meet all my thoughts and emotions with true openness and through that I feel empowered to truly make independent and authentic choices in my life—endlessly  more free from all concepts I learned about what it means to be good, successful, nice, cool, whatever. I feel like I am being showed the source of everything beneficial one could look for in my own mind, and more and more I realise I have access to it in each moment.

I warmly recommend everyone who feels slightly interested to find out more about this magnificently warm and empowering movement that has given me newfound trust in the benefit and power of the human race!

Beate in Sweden.

Grateful For True Well-being

I am so grateful! Lately I have noticed much more ease and energy in my day-to-day life, even though I am more active than ever before. This shift is meaningful to me because I remember back before I started Balanced View training six years ago, when I’d try to perform the smallest task and I was tired and afflicted with stress and anxiety caused from trying to live up to a perfect image of myself.

In this search for perfection all my energy was depleted and I was exhausted. I struggled for many years with debilitating chronic fatigue, migraine headaches, chemical sensitivity and cognitive dysfunction. Although I could find some relief from time to time for my symptoms, there was very little help for the constant under mutter of believing myself as not good enough and then following through on that belief.

I attempted to find solutions from what I had learned at schools or from role models growing up. I researched many spiritual paths. Nothing helped. I could not get out of the loop of thinking of myself as a victim of illness. I was a person who needed to be fixed. I was always at war with myself. This was such a drain of precious energy!

Today, I am much more energized and alive as I deeply relax with what is. I take short moments and rest with all the things I once did not like about myself. While resting I find a spaciousness that opens into a vast perspective where there is harmony with everything and everyone, including myself. From this vast perspective I tap into energy to do things I’d never thought I could do. All my relationships with family and friends are flourishing. Perfect solutions that enhance my health arise magically.

This shift has occurred simply by being open to showing up for support that Balanced View generously offers to anyone. I participate in calls and trainings and listen to the media on the Balanced View website regularly. As I continue to take advantage of this vital support what was once was confusion showing up as ill-health is being clarified. Now I see challenges as an unending opportunity to tap into well-being that is far better than any health remedy I could find.

With much love and gratitude,

Joan Marie

Letting O.I Be in The Driving Seat

‘If we’re going to put human intelligence in machines that effort needs to be informed by Open Intelligence’ quote from Open Intelligence … Human Identity.


I try to remember when in the driving seat of my car to ‘let my endeavour be informed by Open Intelligence’ i.e I need to relax and be guided by O.I. for my own and others safety.

Recently in a huge traffic jam with traffic building up all the time, aware of drivers being frustrated and angry, some trying to pull out and turn around, I opened my window, relaxed as in a short moment , smiled as I looked at the sun glinting through the trees by the road side and listened to the birds.   Soon the traffic began to move again and surprisingly I wasn’t late for my appointment.


with love,


Welcoming Everything Home



I used to think that waking up in the morning sometimes with a sense of anxiety, vulnerability, tightness, or tension was an indication of something ‘wrong’ with me. I assumed that if I wasn’t leaping out of bed brimming with existential glee every day, shouting hallelujah to the heavens and fist-pumping the air, I hadn’t quite ‘got there’ yet.

This is because I had come to believe in a prolific one-dimensional worldview in which authentic well-being is measured by whatever thoughts, emotions and random sensations happen to pass through the landscape of my bodymind on a day-to-day basis. This view is deeply ingrained in contemporary psychology, and in my own experience, the assumption resulted in the futile effort towards a kind of inner ethnic cleansing of any thought or emotion I may have deemed to be not quite up to scratch.

Only ‘positive’ thoughts and emotions counted. No room for anxiety, anger, frustration or depression. Anything myself or society had chosen to describe or label as ‘negative’ or ‘wrong’ couldn’t possibly have value, and needed to be extinguished in order for me to even begin to consider myself as psychologically or spiritually sound.

When I first encountered Balanced View, I had already begun to see through this false fixation and was learning to meet myself and all of my experience with considerably more openness, love and understanding. I was learning to integrate those thoughts and feelings I may have previously been all too quick to cast out, and had started to make friends with the parts of me that I had previously deemed as unacceptable. Nonetheless I was still finding that old patterns of describing and discriminating died hard.

What I discovered, and continue to discover, through trying out and rigorously testing the authenticity and efficacy of the Balanced View training, is an astonishingly sturdy and comprehensive network of support for that process of welcoming everything home, and waking up to what it is about myself that is fundamentally and unreservedly OK, no matter what I am thinking, feeling or experiencing. While I’d had glimpses of this before, I always found my capacity to remain grounded in it, especially during challenging times, was frustratingly elusive. Some thoughts, emotions and sensations just seemed too overwhelming, and I found it impossible amidst this affliction to see the golddust within them, or recognise the forest from the trees.

I am immensely and profoundly grateful for the support on offer through Balanced View’s Four Mainstays to come back again and again to the recognition of this peaceful and powerful indestructible basic state which is the essence of who I am. To gain support to rest deeply in the inseparable awareness within which even the most troubling thoughts, emotions and sensations arise is the greatest gift it is possible to receive in life. It allows me, one short moment at a time, to be fully present for existence, to feel everything fully, and to gain ever deepening assurance in my capacity to contribute to the world from a place of openness, stability, and lasting benefit.

I am grateful for all of this with all of my heart,

In Love always,